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What’s Your Phone Sex Style?

Decoding your phone sex style will help you figure out what you need in the sexual realm, and more importantly, will allow you to tell your phone sex partner what you like. Don’t let your lover be flying blind and unsure of how to pleasure you when you have phone sex! Here are a few ways to help determine what you need to get the most out of the act:

You’re a more submissive type. If you like to be told what to do, or you prefer to be in a submissive position in relation to your partner, that might be what you need to make phone sex work for you. Being directed to do things that will bring another person pleasure, even if it’s over a long-distance phone line, will bring you more pleasure from every aspect of the phone sex experience. There are even specific dirty talk scenarios you can use to enhance the thrill of the submissive slant.

You’re a more dominant type.
If you like to have power over your lover, you can do that very well over a phone line. Long-distance dom/sub relationships work out very well if your partner is on board from the start. Have a frank talk with your partner about what you want to get out of phone sex, and explain that it’s more than the physical pleasure — it’s the rush of the psychological pleasure as well. Then you can both go onto the internet and research new ways to incorporate your need for dominance into your phone sex relationship.

You need physical sensation. If the phone simply isn’t enough and you need more sensation than that, talk about ways to make it happen. Send care packages to each other filled with things that are good reminders of how hot things can be. Perhaps include a pair of panties, racy pictures, or sexy videos of you when you mail the package to him. If you’re mailing something to your female partner, offer things you know she will like and can use during phone sex, like chocolates or a nice vibrator.

You are very visual. If you need to see your partner, consider using webcams, video cameras, and the like to send visual images back and forth. Though you might not be able to touch each other, you can have almost every other aspect, and that can feed the visual side of you until you get to touch your phone sex partner in the flesh.

Phone sex just isn’t enough. If you don’t feel like phone sex is enough, work something out with your partner before you wind up feeling resentful of having only the phone to hold. Make it all as creative as possible, but be prepared to make decisions that will bring you closer together on a physical level. Perhaps you want to see other people while having phone sex with your partner, or maybe you want to make the long-distance relationship work by seeing each other “in the flesh” from time to time. If even the most creative phone sex isn’t enough, talk about it and work toward a loving solution.

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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