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Threesome: When Three is Too Much of a Crowd

Having a threesome might be at the top of the “to do” list for some. They might love the idea of having more than one partner at the same time, either because they want to experience the ultimate pleasure, or they want to fulfill a fantasy for their partner. Sometimes a threesome comes about because the people in the sexual triangle really love each other and want to show it – perhaps they have more than enough love to go around. For many people, threesomes are that “just once” kind of fantasy, the kind of thing they simply want to check off their sexual bucket list.

Threesomes don’t appeal to everyone, however. If you were brought up in a strict religious household, have a problem with multiple partners, get jealous easily, or don’t want to share your bed with anyone but your own lover, then you might have a problem with threesomes. If that’s not your thing, then that’s okay – but how do you handle the pressure from a partner who really does love threesomes, and wants to have one with you?

Dealing with the pressure to have a threesome can be daunting. You might wonder if your partner will leave you to find their sexual thrills, or if they will cheat on you to get what they want. You might think that you are less of a woman or man for not wanting to do it, and you might think there is something wrong with you. Those negative thoughts have no place in the discussion of threesomes! If you aren’t into it, you simply aren’t – and a good lover will understand and respect that.

If you aren’t ready for a threesome, tell your partner that you simply don’t feel comfortable with it just yet. Explain yourself as best you can, but also ask your partner to talk through it with you. This does not mean pressuring you into doing it, and if they try to “talk” you into it, reiterate that you are not going to go through with it if you are pressured into anything at all. The more uncomfortable you get, the less likely you will be to “come around,” and any lover worth their salt will recognize that fact.

If you want to figure out how you can make a threesome happen and be okay with it, then sit down with your partner and talk about the pros and cons. If you are still not sure, take your time in deciding. It’s okay to never have a threesome at all, and it’s also okay to change your mind later on down the road. The choice should always be yours, so if your partner urges or pressures you to have a threesome, stop them right in their tracks!

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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