Sure, there are a lot of sexual qualities about women that men love; but if the truth be told, some of those qualities can be easily found (or heaven forbid, purchased); but there are three things you can give your man that will make you stand out from all the rest – and they have nothing to do with sex!
Many of us know a man (or men) that are fearful of commitment. One reason they feel this way is that they secretly fear an over-dependant partner who is not capable of standing on her own. For the most part, men are team-oriented and as such, they want a team player as their partner — not someone who relies on them to the point they become distracted from their own goals and needs because they are busy taking care of your needs.
So how do you show him (from the very beginning) that you are not going to be overly reliant on him for your own sense of purpose; and that together, you will carry your own weight while on the team? It’s easy –just tap into three elements that you already possess:
Playfulness: If you show him early on that you are light-hearted, quick to laugh, and willing to try new things, he will view that as your willingness to also approach problems that may arise with an equally optimistic outlook. In essence, that you are willing to face potential down times with your own skill set – you won’t expect him to fix your problems.
Passionate: Find things that you are passionate about (independent of him and definitely independent of sex) and then talk to him about them. In doing this, your natural, instinctive enthusiasm will exude from your voice and your eyes and he will inherently see that you have areas of interest that keep you stimulated. In essence, you will not rely on him as the sole provider of your emotional nourishment – you have independent interests to fuel your energy.
Confidence: Yes, we’ve all heard that men love this trait in a woman. But you know what? It’s true to the point that you have to start living it and breathing it if you don’t already possess it. Even if you think you’re having a bad hair day or wearing an unflattering outfit, you have to carry yourself in such a way that he knows you can weather adversity regardless of the situation. In essence, that you have a positive outlook without looking to him for reassurance – you have your own resources to build your sense of worth.
Bring these qualities into any burgeoning relationship and you’ll see just how quickly some of your partner’s fears of commitment will melt away with an equal playfulness, passion, and confidence as yours.