Just when you thought you had it all figured out on the sexual front, guess what? You learn that perhaps there are ways you can improve. That’s the case with the four big mistakes women make in bed. No matter how good we think we are when it comes to sex and the bedroom, there is always room for improvement! These four big mistakes women make in bed can help you figure out what needs to change. Are you doing any of these things?
Using sex as a manipulating force. Using sex as a weapon includes withholding it from your partner because you’re angry, upset, frustrated, or whatever the case may be. You might want something, and he’s not yet willing to give it to you — but you have the power to withhold the pleasure, and so you can probably talk him into just about anything once he’s frustrated enough. This leads to a breakdown in intimacy, because what man wants his desires used as a bargaining chip?
Assuming at night, in bed, is the best place. It might be the most traditional, and yes, the most comfortable — but having sex only at night, and only in bed, can kill the inspiration rather quickly. Changing it up opens new avenues of sexual exploration, and that can lead to better communication with your partner, because you’re doing something new together. So give it a shot on the stairs, the countertop, the front porch swing, and the shower.
Drinking — or the like — and then wondering why they can’t get off. Women do this all the time, and it’s mostly because we overestimate our ability to handle certain things — whether it be a bit of alcohol, prescription drugs, over the counter meds, and the like, anything that goes into the female body has a chance of affecting her sexual response. So when you do have a tough time reaching a climax, ask yourself why it might be — what has changed?
Making comparisons. Comparing yourself to someone else in bed is a fruitless venture. Worrying about how your ass looks in that nightie, or wondering about your lover’s ex and how good they were in bed, can kill the sexual desire right off the bat. Comparing your sex life to that of your sexy neighbor or even those coworkers who like to crow about their sexual conquests is fruitless, too — because how do you really know what goes on behind closed doors? So stop making comparisons and get confident…because confidence is sexy.