Often, dirty talk articles and advice tends to focus on how to talk to a man or a woman…but rarely do you come across an article that discusses how to talk dirty to both! In a society where the ideas and thoughts about sexuality are constantly changing, people are more open about their orientation than ever before. Fifty years ago, it was considered “dirty” to be gay or bisexual — now, it’s possible to declare your sexuality only to be met with a yawn of indifference.
But of course, you can never assume that what works for a man in bed will work for a woman. Just as every person is different, so is what turns that person on. So what if you are into both men and women…is there any common ground to spark your dirty talk to both sexes?
There are definitely a few things to keep in mind, whether you are in bed with a man or a woman:
Be respectful. By that we don’t mean being politically correct, or being nice about what you say when the heat is on. After all, dirty talk is all about being filthy and naughty, and sometimes even saying things that might be offensive in any other situation. After all, how often are you going to call a woman a “bitch” or a “whore” and see that she actually loves it? What we mean by “respect” is the understanding that if they don’t like what you are saying or doing, you will stop — immediately and no questions asked. Feel free to try out anything, but be ready to put on the brakes if necessary.
Ask permission. Do you want to have mind-blowing sex? Make sure everyone is on the same page. If there is something you might be into but you aren’t sure about your partner, simply ask. You’re going to bed together, so asking anything about their sexual preferences is not only okay, but rather expected.
Know your role reversals. Understand that women can be just as coarse, rough, and in control as their male counterparts. Men, on the other hand, can be soft and romantic and submissive, despite their powerful bodies and bearing. It is the first rule that the bicurious learn when they begin to explore — what you have always been taught might not be right, and sexuality might not be as it first appears.
Use your words. When you give it some thought, you might realize that traditional words used in dirty talk — such as bitch, cunt, slut, whore, bastard, fucker, babymaker, etc. — don’t have to pertain simply to one sex or the other. So when you’re in bed with anyone, no matter their orientation, let the dirty words fly! Sometimes it’s hot as hell to say something that seems entirely out of place, but works to light up the libido.