Getting down and dirty with your lover is one of the greatest pleasures. But what happens when the dirty becomes the norm? It’s time to spice things up! These tips should help bring the filthy back into your sex life:
See Something Dirty. Ah, yes. The good old-fashioned porn movie. What does your partner like? What do you like? Find something that suits the two of you and take the plunge into dirty cinema. Purchase a DVD and watch it in the privacy of your own home while you are naked on the couch.
Not quite ready to watch porn? Choose something a little off the beaten path. One of my favorite porn videos of all time is a compilation of “impossible positions” – where tricks of the camera were obviously used in every shot. It’s funny, but it’s also watching naked bodies get it on!
Read Something Dirty. Those naughty paperbacks used to be stuck in the dark basements of bookstores, but now they are right there in the front of the store, waiting to steam things up in the bedroom. Peruse a collection of short stories to find one that suits your frame of mind, and bring it home to share with your honey. Reading a naughty short story out loud can be quite the turn-on!
Become Someone Dirty. Do you feel like you’re all out of tricks? Have you used everything you can think of to turn your partner on, and now you feel like you’re running on empty? Change things up by becoming someone else for a night. Perhaps you’re a stripper riding a pole. Maybe you’re the married woman who is falling in bed with a total stranger. Whatever you choose to be, make it dirty – and make it hot!
Think Dirty Thoughts. Don’t count on dirty talk starting in the bedroom. Get into that mind-set early by thinking dirty thoughts throughout the day. Take a moment while at work to think about how many different positions could be had on that office chair. While driving, make up dirty stories about the couples you see on the street. The dirtier your thoughts, the dirtier your sex will be.
Choose a Dirty Location. Get out of the bedroom. Better yet, get out of the house. Sometimes a location that is very different is enough to energize your sexual relationship. Instead of climbing the stairs to the bedroom, why not just have sex on the staircase? Use that back patio for more than grilling dinner. And if you’re really in the mood for adventure, try a seedy hotel or a semi-public place.
The “same old thing” can be dirtied up with a few easy changes. Which one will you try out this weekend?