If you are in a position to have sex regularly that is a good thing, but that doesn’t mean that the sex itself is good. If you are looking for a few ideas to spice it up in the bedroom (or somewhere else) there are several ways you can turn your humdrum, stuck in a rut, routine, reliable, basically BORING sex life into an amazing experience every single time.
Set the Scene
You know your lover better than anyone else, so when it comes to choosing things that will be seductive, arousing and hot you know what will work best. If dim lighting or candle light is a trigger then make sure you have that in the bedroom. I f tactile pleasures such as feathers, silk or leather push buttons then of course you need those on hand.
If you are looking forward to an unrestrained sexual marathon it may be a good idea to “prime the pump” a little bit. Consider leaving a sexy voicemail promising lots of carnal delights, don’t be shy, go ahead and pull out the naughty words. Set the mood for the evening early in the day and provide short sexy updates throughout the day via text, email and voice mail messages. By the time you get together at the end of the day foreplay will pretty much be unnecessary.
Let Nature Take Its Course
Once you and your lover are together there should be no shyness, no anxiety or fear, no inhibitions. If you want to be demanding, then demand! If you want to be dominated, then let your submissive self out to play. If you want to whisper dirty words and thoughts it’s okay; if you want to yell them even better. The idea is that whatever happens between two consenting partners is natural and right there is no shame in embracing your sexuality and exploring the adventure that sex can be.
Whether you are meeting for a planned date night sexual event or simply squeezing in a little pleasure before you fall asleep after a hard day at work, make the effort to make it as wonderful as possible. A simple unexpected touch or variation in the routine can make even midweek sex exciting and explosive.