You can talk dirty all night long…but will it be sexy? Just as important as the dirty words you use is the way you deliver them. Talking dirty doesn’t become sexy until you can feel the words. The way you utter those words is what determines whether it’s a hit or not!
Think about the naughty words you love the most. Now, say them out loud. Say them very calmly, without any inflection at all. See how boring they sound? Now, say them with a little bit of a purr. Make yourself sound almost shy and uncertain. Do they sound better?
Next, drop your voice down to that sultry register he loves so much, and growl those words. Put some feeling behind them. Whoa! The difference is clear and amazing in terms of the passion Richter scale. If you feel the words you are saying, your partner is sure to feel them, too.
The tone of your voice can be used in many different ways. One of my favorite ways to trip my man’s trigger is to act like the cool, confident dominatrix. By saying the words in a calm, controlled manner, I can make him believe he’s entirely under my control. By raising my voice just slightly when he doesn’t do what I ask of him, I can change the entire vibe of the conversation. If I add in a nice black blindfold or a set of handcuffs, the words I say hold even more weight — because with the props in place, he knows I mean it, both through my actions and through my words.
But which ones hold more weight? You know already, don’t you? The words always do. You can have a nice sex play without a single sound, but what sways your partner more — the toys you introduce into the bedroom, or the way you sound when you talk about what you’re going to do next?
It’s all in the voice. The next time you want to take control of your man, make it clear — use your words, your tone, and your volume to tell him exactly what you expect. It will be a thrill for both of you!