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Hotter Than Hot: Dirty Talk And Mutual Masturbation

By now you know how hot dirty talk can be. You can imagine driving a man wild with the lustful words that slip so easily from your lips. You can turn up the heat while you’re riding him, and you can even interject a few naughty phrases while you’re roleplaying as the naive virgin – anything is possible with dirty talk.

But one of the hottest sexual moves is something that rarely gets attention. It’s flat-out steaming thanks to the dirty talk that goes along with it, and the voyeurism is nothing to sniff at, either!

It’s mutual masturbation – and the hottest of the hot dirty talk.

Mutual masturbation has been defined in a variety of ways, but it seems the most universal definition is this: You and your partner, watching each other, masturbating yourselves to orgasm while you say whatever comes to mind in the heat of the moment. It might involve touching each other, but more often, it doesn’t – it’s all about watching what your partner does and saying whatever it takes to get them to the next level of arousal.

Watching your partner masturbate is a very intimate experience. When you have sex, you know what you’re doing it making a difference – you can see it in their eyes, hear it in their voice, and definitely feel it in their body.

But when you’re in the midst of mutual masturbation, things are quite different. You are watching what they do to make themselves happy. Your partner is the only true expert on their own body, so you’re watching the expert as they make themselves feel good. If that’s not a learning experience, I don’t know what is!

You also get immediate, clear feedback on your dirty talk technique. When you’re whispering dirty talk in the heat of passion, do you know whether it’s really the dirty talk that works? Or is it what you’re doing with your hands and your body while you are talking dirty that gets your partner off? Hopefully, it’s a combination of both!

But when you are simply watching your partner – when you are masturbating together in the same room – the words you say hold much more power. You are truly lighting the images in your lover’s mind, and there is no doubt whether or not it’s working. Their body will tell the tale!

You might get even luckier if you ask your partner to describe what they seen in their mind while they masturbate. What gets them off? What scenarios do they dream about? You can listen to their fantasy and make a point of noticing when they get really turned on…that’s when you know to remember what they are saying for future reference.

Of course, it’s not just about your partner…you are in the spotlight, too. So don’t be shy! Let your lover watch. If learning to talk dirty is the ultimate gateway to pleasure, then mutual masturbation might be the key that opens the lock. Tonight is a good time to get started, don’t you think?

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

One comment

  1. ShakespeareInLove

    My long time cyber partner wants to do this via web cam. It’s not something that I have ever done before. He masturbates for me all the time via web cam. I just can’t get past being in the “spotlight”. I get caught up in “what if it doesn’t look right” or “what if he doesn’t like what he sees?” Ahhh…help. Suggestions?

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