Dirty talk is like everything else in the sexual realm – it takes a dash of confidence and moxey to make it great! If your self-confidence is a bit shaky, follow a few of these tips to shore it up:
Write It Down. Does that seem like a silly thing to do? It won’t once you get started! Sit down and make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Then make a list of all the things that other people have said they love about you. Include everything that makes you unique, lovable, and wonderful. Then read the list out loud to yourself while looking in the mirror. Keep the list underneath your pillow, tuck it into your purse, and come back to it whenever you need inspiration.
Treat Yourself. If you need a boost, get one! Go to the spa for a day of pampering. Get a new haircut. Buy that new dress that will look fabulous on your curves, or spring for those high heels that will make your legs look even hotter than they already are! While you’re at it, look into lingerie that will feel perfectly soft and silky against your skin.
Do Something Good. Giving back to others is one of the best ways to build your self-confidence. Volunteer at a local charity, give your time and effort to the domestic abuse shelter, or offer to give lessons in painting to kids. The more you get out there and showcase your skills, the more confident you will be.
Surprise Your Partner. Does your lover think you’re predictable? Give him an evening he won’t forget! Plan something wild and crazy for the two of you. It might be a trip out of town, or plans to stay in with a steamy movie and a surprise new toy. Whatever you choose, make sure it will be surprising enough to leave your man speechless. Nothing boosts confidence like seeing that gleam of happiness in his eyes!
Get Out and FLIRT! Dress up in your nicest outfit, get your hair done and your nails painted, then step out on the town. Flirt outrageously with every cute guy you meet. Ask men to dance with you. Buy drinks for that cute young thing at the bar. Hell, dance with the sexiest woman in the place and ask her for pointers on how she manages to steal the spotlight when she walks into a room.
Most of all, be yourself. You are sexy already – all you need is a little boost to make you believe in it again. Once that sexy confidence is restored, your sex life – and your dirty talk moxey! – are sure to follow.