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From Gold Chains And Moustaches To Romance and Passion: Discovering the Right Kind Of Porn For You

When my husband and I first met, one of the very first things we did together – before we were even dating – was watch a porno. Now, it’s not because either of us is addicted to porn, or that we even had an inkling of a sexual relationship at that time. We watched it with a group of friends because it was so bad, it was funny.

Sadly, this is true of a great deal of pornography out there. And for a long time, I had no idea why my husband enjoyed watching porn. I wasn’t threatened by it – to the contrary, I was glad that he had a source of release when I was too tired or too busy or just not in the mood. But when he wanted to watch a porn with me to help us both get in the mood, I just couldn’t get into it.

What turned me off? Frankly, it was the jack hammering sex, the objectifying body language of the men, and the fact that a lot of the male porn stars weren’t really all that much to look at. Don’t get me wrong – there is a time and place for fierce, nasty sex, and dom/sub behavior is totally fine. But the porno’s that my husband had in his collection weren’t going to do it for me.

That’s when I began my own quest for good porn, and what I discovered shocked and pleased me. In light of the sexual revolution that began in the sixties and is, in my opinion, still taking place, there are more facets of the sex industry that are creating products specifically for women. This includes porn that is written and directed with a female audience in mind.

Once I found some videos that got me going, it was exciting to incorporate a little porn into our sex life. I could finally understand how the voyeuristic aspect of watching others have sex could get a person all hot and bothered. And my husband was happy with my selections. He’s easy to please – as long as there are boobies on the screen, he’s good to go!

I know many women feel threatened by a lover who watches porn. If you’re one of those women, maybe you are simply turned off by the same aspects of porn that I was. You may find that watching some of the made-for-ladies porn out there will actually be a turn-on. And if you are in a healthy relationship with the right lover, the act of watching porn together can definitely be a boon to your sex lives!

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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