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Extending The Threesome Invitation

Imagine this: You and your partner have been talking about fantasies in bed lately, and one that keeps popping up is the threesome idea. Whether it’s inviting another man into your bedroom or enticing another woman to join you, it seems you and your partner are getting into the serious discussions of what it would be like.

So you’re almost ready to take that step…but then you realize you have no idea how to proceed.

No worries…we’re always here to help!

The first step in deciding you want to go ahead with a threesome is knowing what you’re getting into. Keep in mind that no matter how horny for this you might be, it’s something you can never take back — and there are emotional ramifications to consider. Make certain you are both okay with the idea before you proceed.

When you’re sure you want to give it a shot, consider what kind of person you want to invite into the threesome. Do you want someone you will never see again? Do you want to invite a close friend you trust completely? Do you want to build a threesome relationship with someone who lives far away from you, so seeing them will only happen when you choose to schedule a trip? Decide on which scenario is most comfortable for you.

Then consider the ground rules. What will be allowed? Will you both be able to enjoy that new member of the threesome, or will you have guidelines on how can touch whom? For example…if you are a woman and you want to be with two men, how would you feel if your man chose to experiment a bit with the new man in the threesome? The same goes for the men…you might want to have another woman in bed with you, but what if your lover wants to make love to them, too? How would you handle that?

Now you’re ready to approach the person you want to invite into your threesome. There are a few easy ways to do this:

If it’s a stranger, putting an ad on Craigslist might work. You can also try adult message boards on the web. This is especially helpful if you don’t want to meet anyone local and prefer to travel for your kicks.

If you are inviting a close friend, test the waters first. Ask them if they have ever done it and mention that you and your lover have been talking about it. That will plant the seed…and later you can expand on the conversation, feeling out your friend for their ideas on the matter. Take your time with this — it’s not something that will happen overnight!

If you’re ready to give a threesome a try, remember to always “check in” with each other afterward, and if anything makes you uncomfortable, remember that you don’t have to try it again…the experiment might go well, and it might not. But you never know until you’ve given it that first shot!

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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