Good communication is the foundation of any strong, loving relationship. Women are born to talk, but that doesn’t always mean we are good at communicating. Sometimes we are better talkers than listeners. Sometimes we even get ourselves in trouble because we don’t know when to stop talking!
And it seems that men have the opposite problem – they don’t know when to start talking. When you feel that you need to talk to your lover about something important, it can take a lot of work to coax him into opening up and sharing his feelings.
So, how do you build that foundation of good communication when, by nature, men and women communicate so differently?
A little seductive storytelling might just be the answer!
Think about it: what is one major thing that you and your lover have in common? Sexual attraction. And while sex in itself is a fantastic way to communicate with your lover, talking about it gives you the added bonus of mini communication lessons.
The very nature of dirty talking leads to improved communication skills. To be successful at verbally seducing your lover, both of you need to think about the other person’s sexual desires. The more you engage in dirty talk, the more attentive you will become to your partner’s wants so you can rile them up even better the next time around.
And both of you will need to find that balance between saying too much and too little. It’s obvious that saying too little during a sexy storytelling session can be a problem – if one of you leaves too much to the imagination, it might not be as effective at getting your partner hot and bothered. But how is it possible to say too much?
Well, by “saying too much” I don’t mean the number of words – I mean we might not always choose the right words. Dirty talk is supposed to be about physical and emotional ecstasy. It is a great way to build intimacy and trust. It is not the time to bring up complaints. Leave those outside the bedroom, or he’ll start associating being sexually intimate with you being mad at him.
So if your love life could use a little boost, give dirty talk a try. You might just find that your sex life improves, too!