You probably already know some of the thrill of dirty talk — that feeling of someone whispering in your ear, their breath tickling your skin, their voice spinning right to the core of you, making you hot and breathless and wet and hard and all sorts of other things that bring to mind a passionate sexual romp.
But even the most seasoned dirty talker can learn a thing or two about touch, and when the slightest hint of it heightens the arousal to a fever pitch!
Have you seen the object of your affection shiver as your breath caresses their ear? Then you know how much a simple touch, as light as air, can affect them when they are turned on. Capitalize on that feeling with gentle touches that remind them of how close you are, and how you can’t wait to get your hands on them in private. How you touch is just as important as where you touch, so we’ll talk about both.
First, how to touch…follow these guidelines for starters, then try out other ideas of your own.
— Keep your touch light.
— Use the back of your fingers, not the tips.
— Keep it short – touch your lover only long enough to be certain they felt you. Two or three seconds is a good time frame.
— Less is more. Make them want your touches!
And where should you touch? That’s just as important.
— Stick to erogenous zones that don’t get much attention, such as the nape of the neck or the small of the back.
— Don’t hold her hand – opt for wrapping your fingers lightly around her wrist. Gently rub the inside of her wrist, right at her pulse points.
— Lean in and take a deep breath against her neck.
— Touch him by running your fingertips across his chest.
— Kiss her forehead and let your breath graze her temple.
— Put a possessive hand on his or her knee while you look into their eyes.
— Slip your hand around their waist and pull them close for a moment, then let them go.
Talking dirty into their ear while you touch them in these gentle ways can make for the best anticipation you can imagine. The key is to remind them with both your physical touch and your voice that you are there, you want to touch them, and you will give them even more when you get behind closed doors.
And once you do…well, it’s time to make good on all those touches and teases!