You have probably heard horror stories from friends about dating as a single parent. So many times, both men and women will run the other way when they learn you have a little one running around. They think you will see them as a substitute parent, or worse, as a meal ticket…and they worry about getting attached to your child and then watching the romantic relationship with you go sour. It’s happened before, and unfortunately, it can definitely happen again.
But you can move into the dating world as a single parent, and even manage to get a little action between the sheets…it’s just a matter of how you approach the subject.
Don’t let a potential mate meet your children until the romantic relationship is well-established. That means you can talk about your kids, but you can’t bring them into the situation until you know you are solid. That doesn’t mean a few dates, or even a few weeks, and maybe not even a few months. Take your time and remember that your child’s heart is just as vulnerable as yours…maybe even more so. You are the person who has to protect it, so don’t be blinded by romance.
Don’t let your kids get in the way of intimacy. You might be a parent, but you deserve to have a bit of fun…and you deserve to have a sex life, too. Your libido doesn’t dry up the moment your child cries for the first time! Carve out time for you and your date, and don’t feel guilty about doing that. A happy parent is an effective parent, and believe me, even parents are quite happy when they are in the middle of a romp in the sheets!
Tired of the relationship blues? Consider a “friends with benefits” situation. Who says you have to be in a relationship? You can still get what you need and have your freedom, too. Many people will be happy to jump at the opportunity for no-holds-barred, no-strings-attached sex during an afternoon in the local hotel.
Don’t feel guilty about doing that, either. You are an adult with a vivid sexual imagination — you deserve to put it to good use!