I remember the first time someone asked me to have cybersex. Our chats over the messenger program had gotten a little flirty, and soon he was asking what my favorite positions were, and what I liked to do in bed. The questions were exciting, and I found myself asking him all sorts of naughty things, too. Then he popped the question:
At that point in my life, I was a complete novice to the internet, so you can imagine how confused I was about that question. I had no idea what “cyber” meant, much less how to do it! When I got up the nerve to ask, he sent back:
LOL! A noob!
Now I know that meant he was laughing out loud at the newbie.
I did learn a thing or two about cyber that night, and in the time since I have perfected my technique. There are a few important points that I wish I had known way back in the beginning – it would have made things so much easier and saved me a great deal of frustration!
First…always get yours first. If that sounds like a selfish plan, that’s because it is…but with good reason. An annoying number of partners will work the cyber sex until they get off, and then they will log off – not even a ‘goodbye’ or a ‘thanks for the fun’. The first time it happened to me, I was confused, not to mention horny and unfulfilled. The second time, it pissed me off. The third time I decided I would not talk my partner to orgasm until I got mine…and then, of course, I would be more than happy to give my cybersex partner their own release.
However, once you’ve cybered a few times with one particular person and you know they aren’t going to disappear on you, then you can relax your “get mine first” rule.
The key to good cyber is to keep things moving. Don’t wait for your partner to respond to what you’re saying…hopefully he or she is too busy playing with body parts to play with the keyboard. If you get an encouraging ‘mmmm’ or ‘keep going’ or ‘almost there’ – keep going!
Keep the messages short and sweet, so they appear on the screen very quickly, one after the other. A good rule of thumb is to keep the messages to one line only, and fire them off at a fast and furious pace. You want to produce a feast for your partner’s eyes, one that will keep them reading line after line after line, unable to tear their eyes away until the moment you bring them to orgasm.
Soon we’ll talk about some of the hottest cybersex scenarios, and how to draw the deep and dark fantasies out of your cybersex partner. Get that keyboard ready!