Cyber sex used to be one of those things that people laughed about whenever they got the chance. It had the distinction of being the outlet for lonely souls, those who didn’t want a relationship, or those who simply couldn’t get laid.
Who would waste their time behind a computer screen, jacking off to what someone else was typing? Apparently, a lot of people. Now that the internet has taken a central role in everyday lives, cybersex is suddenly more mainstream than ever.
And who is doing it now? Couples…those who know each other well, live together, and maybe have even been married for years!
Cybersex can be the key to keeping a great sex life alive while both partners are too busy with work, household chores and social obligations. You might not be able to sneak away for a little lunchtime quickie, but you can definitely sit down at the computer for ten minutes or so and get your honey off while he’s on his lunch break at the office.
In fact, you don’t have to wait that long…if your partner is in another room of the house and using the internet, you can have cybersex without leaving the house. Some people choose that option for a few reasons:
It spices things up. Cybersex is out of the norm for couples who have been together for a long time, so doing it out of the spirit of fun, rather than the spirit of necessity, makes it hotter than ever.
It allows you to say things you might not say otherwise. Maybe you’re scared to have anal sex with your lover, but you’re not afraid to talk about it! Cybersex allows you to be whoever you want to be, and gives your partner the experience – virtually, of course – that he has been craving.
It gives you another secret to share. The most successful long-term couples will tell you that they have certain secrets between just the two of them, things that no one else would ever guess. Have you ever seen a loving couple glance at each other, and without a single word, one of them starts to blush? They have a secret that only they know, and you can have that, too – cybersex is the kind of secret that will make you both blush when you walk into the electronics store and pass the computer aisle.
It allows you to explore. What does your partner like? Checking in with your lover while you’re in bed might not yield many answers, but if you ask him via steamy email or instant messenger, he could open up even more. You might open up, too. Try to discuss new things via cybersex and see what happens when it comes time to meet up in the bedroom!
Finally, cybersex hones your dirty talk skills. It gives you new ideas and enriches your dirty talk vocabulary. When you do come together under the sheets (in more ways than one, we hope!), you will have a few new dirty phrases to try out on your lover. And that’s definitely a good thing!