My boyfriend has this game on his phone that he is obsessed with. As much as I moan and groan every time he pulls out his phone when we are getting into bed, I know his phone and this game don’t really interfere with our relationship.
This isn’t the case for all couples. As technology grows and people rely on their phones to stay connected, the digital divide that connects people worldwide is dividing couples more and more. Obsessions with texting or chatting on Facebook, and checking e-mails are actually causing our interpersonal communication channels to fail.
Remember that big fight you two had about a month ago? All because sarcasm doesn’t have a font and makes interpretation near impossible. Now you two feel absolutely ridiculous for fighting in the first place, don’t you? Well here is a bit of advice to help navigate the ups and downs of texting in the world of romance.
First, be clear! Just spell it out. The clearer you can be, the better it will be received. Things go so quick now-a-days, you can take the time to clearly deliver your message. Leave no room for misinterpretation.
Another helpful tip is to keep the mystery alive. I know it is easy to pick up the phone and text, but if you or your significant other is at work, you should be working. Take the time on your lunch hour to call the person. Leave a sexy message and let them know that you can’t wait to see them later. Focus on your day and when you two come home to each other at night, you will be able to share work stories over dinner, laugh together crawl into bed and begin the fireworks.
In the dating world, if you aren’t hooked up seriously you should also keep texts to a minimum. Your date doesn’t need to know you are 2 blocks away, then in the parking lot…. then walking inside. Make plans, stick to them, call or text if something arises. Otherwise, you will see that person for your date. This goes for both guys and girls and relates back to the previous piece of advice as well. Texting too much implies clinginess… a dreaded word for both sexes. The mystery of one another is what keeps people coming back for more.
Lastly, the most simple of advice is talk to each other. Make time each day to turn the phones and TV off, look each other in the eye and say “I love you.” It will mean more to that person than any phone call, any text or e-mail you might send. When technology fails, all we will have is each other, so make sure you stay connected in both your communication and between the sheets.