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Can Your Relationship Handle A Threesome?

Dirty talk opens up wide horizons and throws open doors you might not have realized were there. The key to those doors is the rich fantasy realm, where you can play out your desires by roleplaying with your partner behind closed doors. Talking dirty about what you want, and how you want it, can make you take a harder look at your fantasies. What do you really want, and do you really want to make it a reality?

For many people, the threesome fantasy is a huge one. It’s so huge, in fact, that it’s something many people will try at least once in their lifetime. If you’ve ever been to a frat party at your local “good time” college, you know that sometimes a threesome is even considered a rite of passage.

But what about your particular relationship? Could it survive the threesome fling? These factors can help you decide.

Consider every angle. It’s easy to think that a threesome is going to be a lot of fun — and you’re probably right. But consider the aftermath as well as the good times. How will you and your partner go back to being a “twosome” once you’ve experienced being a “threesome”? Are there any doubts that plague your relationship right now? Has either of you cheated or broken trust in the past? If you have concerns about anything at all — and that does mean anything! — don’t try out the threesome fantasy.

Set the ground rules. Know what will happen before it happens. For instance, are you going to let your guy fuck the woman you’ve invited to bed with you, or will there be no penetrative sex? Are you going to allow the man you’ve invited into your threesome have sex with your lover? Is she going to let him do certain things? How far are you all going to go? Talk frankly about what makes you uncomfortable and what turns you on. Understand the ground rules and convey that to your third person.

Jealousy = No Go! If anyone is concerned about jealousy, or feels a twinge of it when you discuss threesomes and fucking other people, you’re not ready. Jealousy means you should shelve the idea for a future date. Make a pact not to discuss it again for six months, a year, whatever feels comfortable to both of you.

Start with Just Once. Don’t let your threesome partner spend the night after the first encounter. Make it only a few hours, and ask them to leave right when you’re all done fulfilling your fantasy. This will give you and your partner a chance to deal with the emotional and physical feelings you will have after the threesome is over…and you realize you really have done it!

Immediately Check In. Now is the time to talk about the experience. Discuss what went the way you thought it would, and what went wrong, if anything. Talk about how it made you feel, and how you feel now that it’s over. Don’t talk about doing it again just yet — wait and give yourselves time to think about things first. Keep the lines of communication open, and your relationship could be even stronger after the threesome fun is over.

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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