It is one of the most common complaints, particularly by men, when it comes to long term relationships or marriage – the sex life comes to a halt. For some couples, there is the slow burn out until it ends all together. For others, date night on Saturday nights is still alive and well, but they hardly call their sex lives exciting. Does this sound like you? If so, hey, don’t feel bad about it, it has happened to every couple in a long term relationship at least once. So if you find yourself watching these hot and heavy couples of all ages getting it on in prime time drama, and find yourself wishing you were them, maybe it’s time to start thinking about how to amp up the sex life. Remember when sex used to be fun? Those days don’t have to be the good old days with the following tips.
1. Variety is the spice of life, and of sex. That’s right, you’re going to have to mix it up a bit. If you aren’t so brave, you can start with small changes. Do it on a different night, do it in a different room, do it at a different time of day, or just wear something different when you bring it on. In this very busy world, it can be soooo easy to fall into a sex rut. You won’t be happy with your sex life as long as you are using the word “rut” by the way. In order to keep your sex life from going stale, it’s time to start mixing it up a little. Start with one change, and you will be surprised at how exciting and easy it will be to add more and more changes down the line.
2. Remember that the best sex of your life can come in a long term relationship. The benefits that come from a long term relationship are abundant, that is why everyone wants one so desperately. There is something to be said about having a little bit of a comfort level with someone. This is someone you already and instinctively trust, and so you can let go a little more. The bedroom oops and blunders become something to giggle about after the fact, and you have someone you are safe with sharing fantasies. Believe it or not, but the more comfortable you are with someone, the greater the fun when you turn the kink on. This could very well be the hottest sex in your life, but you have to be willing to step outside that comfort zone. Go ahead, even the suggestion of something kinky will amp things up before you even make it to the bedroom.
3. Have your first date….all over again. You may have a rule about no sex on the first date, but when you are revisiting your first date, there ARE no rules. This is an age old tip, but it works time and time again. You can even try it time and time again and you will get the same results. Revisit your first date again, but make this a blind date. Pretend you don’t know each other. The subconscious act of pretending to be strangers, while the realistic notion of knowing this person very well, will take down the guard we ALL experience on a first date. And you know that the potential for kinky is always high when your guard is down. Go ahead and let loose a little bit, be that girl you’ve always wanted to be on a first date. You will love this one so much you may end up having a first date EVERY Saturday night from here on out. And so you should.