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Phone Sex: Just How Seriously Should You Take It?

Sexting2-4When it comes to phone sex, there are two very divided camps. On one hand, phone sex is seen as a fun little romp, one that has no emotional or relationship value at all, beyond a good orgasm. But on the other hand, phone sex can be seen as a hotter than hot way to maintain and nurture a relationship.

 

For those who see phone sex as a romp and nothing more, they usually point out that if there is no physical connection, then there is no sex. “If nothing is getting wet or going into a hole, then it’s not the real thing” is one of the typical arguments. For those, phone sex is just seen as a way to get off, and it’s always nicer to get off with someone else than all on your own. These are the people who can have phone sex with a random stranger off Craigslist or some other internet site, or can call a dating service and get the number of someone who just wants a little aural stimulation, and be perfectly okay with that.

On the other end of the spectrum are those for whom phone sex is the real deal. It can be just as real as a physical encounter, they believe, and they are quick to point out the emotional aspects of phone sex. Talking dirty to someone over the telephone line can definitely forge an emotional connection, especially if it is more often than just once. You learn intimate things about that person, and in turn, they learn intimate things about you. To some people, this is tantamount to cheating if you are doing it with someone other than your significant other.

There are good arguments for both sides of the coin. Those who believe it’s just a fine romp and nothing more canwoman on the phone in her underwear point out that phone sex is the ultimate in “safe sex” and that no one runs the possibility of getting hurt in any way. It’s just a voice over a phone line, no more serious than the porn video you watch or the 1-900 number you call if you really want to get off but can’t find anyone suitable elsewhere. Whether it’s a friend you get off with on a regular basis or a stranger you found on a message board, it is a game of no harm, no foul, where everyone is happy at the end.

The other argument boils down to relationships, and how you feel about the connections you can have with other people. Usually this argument says that phone sex is fine, as long as nobody is getting hurt and everyone is in agreement. For example, having phone sex with someone other than your significant other would be a bad thing, because you’re supposed to be getting your kicks from them. Or having phone sex, and telling others intimate things about yourself, can be intimate enough as to be “real” – and that can mean you are putting another notch on your headboard.

What do you think? Is phone sex the real deal? Or is it just for fun?

About Denise Brienne

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.

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  • We started out as phone sex buddies and still are…but now has progressed to him coming over..we are beginning to share more secrets about what we would like..free and openly…..we both agree…if you can be compatable on the phone and get each other off with the talk….then the actual act is going to be good….and it has proven such with us…

  • Phone sex is very important when dealing with long distance, otherwise its just fun. I think that it can really spice up a normal relationship and can be very vital in to keeping a long distance one going. Even give sexting a whirl.