Have you ever lusted to tie your partner to the bed and ravish his body? Have you ever wanted to be tied down and helpless yourself? Light bondage is something many couples are into. Tying up your partner gives you a delicious feeling of being entirely in control. For the person who is tied down, it’s a turn-on because it means you don’t have to worry about what comes next…your lover will be the one calling all the shots. Giving up control to someone else can be a heady feeling, and on the flip-side, controlling someone else can give you a sense of power that enhances ever aspect of your lovemaking.

Bondage is hot, but you can make it even hotter with dirty talk! Can you imagine being tied up and everything completely silent? Not so much fun, right? Talking dirty to your partner while they are lying in bed, helplessly tied up, is the perfect way to ramp up the action.

Now is the time to tease! Merciless teasing dirty talk will make your lover beg for more.

There are so many ways to do this. You could taunt your lover without touching them, or tell them what you’re going to do, or even play out fantasies in words while your lover is tied up. For example:

I’m going to do anything I want, and you can’t stop me.

Would you like it if I called a friend to come over and fuck you right now?

I’m going to make you come until you can’t breathe.

You’ve been naughty, so you’re tied up. How should I punish you?

I’m going to fuck you with every toy in the toybox. Which one should be first?

I could fuck your pussy…or I could fuck your ass. Which one do you think I’ll take?

Shut up. You’re tied up and you can’t tell me what to do.

Let’s see if you come harder when you’re tied up. I bet you do!

These are just a few examples of things you can say to your partner to get them all hot and bothered. They will already be turned on thanks to the bondage, but your naughty words can bring fantasies to life!

Give it a try this evening and see what happens…then come back here and tell us how it all went. We love hearing the naughty stories!

Many couples enjoy spanking. They love the sensation of warmth. They like the taboo feeling of doing something that their neighbors or coworkers might think they would never try. The enjoy the “submission quality” of the act, the fact that someone in the relationship has to give up a little bit of control to the other, and in doing so, both of the lovers receive pleasure.

But what does spanking have to do with dirty talk? Plenty!

A good spanking session wouldn’t be complete without some naughty talk to go along with the action. Here are some ideas for what to say when you’re caressing your lover’s buttocks with your hand — or your whip, or your paddle, or anything else you fancy:

Look at you! All open and ready for me, you naughty thing.

Count as I spank you. Tell me how many you deserve.

Bet your cock is hard now, isn’t it?

Does your pussy get wetter with every spank? I think it does!

Tell me you want it. Say it.

If you’re a good boy and take your spanking like a man, I just might fuck you when I’m done.

Does that hurt? You like it when it hurts, don’t you? 

Are you going to come when I spank you?

Go ahead and come. I’ll punish you by spanking you another ten times.

When you’re spanking your partner, taunting them is usually a turn-on. For example, reminding them of why they are being spanked — perhaps becuase she’s been a ‘bad girl who likes to tease’ or simply because he ‘likes it like a real man should’ — keeps the tension high and makes them wonder what comes next. Spanking as a part of role playing is often hot, and if often paired with bondage or a dominant/submissive situation.

This is just a brief overview, the tip of the spanking iceberg! What spanking fantasies do you and your partner have? What kind of dirty talk would go along with them? Share your ideas and experiences with us!

Did you ever consider texting sexy dirty talk to your lover?

If you think a simple text message can’t be sexy, think again! Dirty talk doesn’t have to be filled with lots of words. The point is to create an image in your lover’s head, one that makes your partner long to do the naughty things you are bringing to mind. You can do that with a few simple text messages in the middle of a very busy day!

Text something to your partner — anything, as long as it is short and naughty. For instance, how would you react if you saw something like this pop up on your phone?

want 2 c u cum now

Okay…if I saw that, it would make me give it a second look. After that second look, I would be thinking about exactly what that would feel like. He wants to see me come? Now? Wonder what’s on his mind!

A simple text message conversation can get steamy enough to make you walk out of your office to get some air. You can send him one message after another, describing what you would like to do to him. Write it as a story, with very short lines. Stay quick, blunt and to the point. By the time you’ve both had enough of the tease, you will be heading toward the nearest rendezvous point — or picking up the phone and hiding out in the supply closet while you do the phone sex deed!

Still don’t think texting works to keep the fires burning? Give it a try and see what happens…then come back here and tell us about it!

It can be easy to fall into a routine of dirty talk phrases that absolutely work for both of you. And why not? After all, if it ain’t broke, there’s no need to fix it, right?

But just as with anything else that concerns lovemaking, you can find yourself in a rut. Yes, even with that sexy and steamy dirty talk! How do you spice it up when things start to seem a little stale?

There are many places to find new dirty talk ideas. Here are just a few:

Dirty stories. Remember those dime-store men’s magazines that have a few naughty pictures and lots of "confession" type stories? The ones where anything goes? They are perfect fodder for dirty talk ideas. If you aren’t the kind to flip through a naughty paperback, consider the more upscale erotica anthologies on the market today. They might not have as many naughty and raunchy words within those pages, but they do have some interesting scenarios that can lead to new fantasies!

Porn films . Sure, they can run the gamut from sleazy to romantic, but that simply means you can find one that’s right for you! Porn films with the potty-mouthed chick on the cover are usually good for hearing a lot of ear-searing action. Put in a video, watch which words turn your lover on, and file them away in the back of your mind for future reference.

Word of mouth . Do you have a friend who is very open-minded? Tell them you want some new ideas and challenge them to help. You might be surprised by what your friend knows! And of course, friends are all about helping each other out, so the conversation could turn into a very enlightening discussion with not only dirty word tips, but new activities to try as well.

Finally, have you considered a dirty talk forum ? A forum is a place where many people of like minds join in to talk about their favorite things. A dirty talk forum can give you ideas you never imagined!

It’s easy to spice up the dirty talk if you know where to look. Even if it ain’t broke, there’s nothing wrong with tarting it up a little, right?

Now it’s time to explore just how deep and dark those fantasies can get!

When you and your partner are in a very talkative and open mood, bring up one of the darker fantasies you have. Mention, perhaps, your favorite gang-bang fantasy, or how much you love the thought of tying your lover up and spanking him until his rear is a lovely shade of red. Put those fantasies into words, using some of the dirtiest descriptions you can come up with. Ask your lover if he can make it sound even nastier than you did.

As an example, let’s take the gang-bang fantasy. Telling him you would love to have “a dick in every hole” is good — but the goal is to get him to say something even filthier than that. Would “I want to watch you get fucked hard in every slutty hole you have” be even better?

There are no limits to what dirty talk can explore! Though participating in a gang-bang is not something you would do in a real-life situation, when you’re talking about naughty fantasies, anything goes. You can explore that darker side without ever leaving the bedroom, and still have the safety of just the two of you. So the naughtier you can get, the better?

Turn it into a dirty game. Whichever person can come up with words that make the fantasy filthier than ever, more imaginative than ever, gets the choice of a particular favor. Choose what the favor is, and then go at the words! Try to get the upper hand on each other as you come up with dirty phrases to describe what you would love in your perfect fantasy world. Eventually, one of you is going to come up with something so hot, all you will be able to do is pant out a weak “Yes!”

Whoever renders the other one speechless first, wins.

But then again…with the hot and nasty sex that comes afterward, perhaps you both win!

One of my favorite dirty talk moments happened when my lover told me he loved a woman who could take control of him. I immediately latched onto the scenario and started telling him what I should do to him. “I should tie you to this bed and tease you until you’re begging to come” was the way I started out. Rather tame, perhaps…because soon we worked up to the more serious naughty thrills, like “I’m going to tie you to the bed and invite that pretty blonde from next door to come in here and ride you while I watch. You had better not come for her — if you do, I’ll punish you.”

Now, I would never really dream of inviting the pretty blonde neighbor into our bedroom! I would never consider letting another woman have a go at my man, either. But when we were in the throes of dirty talk, the mere thought was a turn-on for both of us. And in the end, both of us got off on the mere thought of what I had suggested.

We had just crossed the threshold from naughty talk to dirty role-playing!

Role playing is simply taking on the persona of someone else while in the midst of your sex play. You probably do this from time to time without realizing what you are doing. If you open up about a fantasy and ask your partner to talk to you about it, you’re on the verge of role playing. If you actually take that fantasy and talk through it, while going through the motions during your sex play, you’re participating in role playing!

You can spice up the role playing by adding props to your scenario. Soon I really was tying my lover to the bed, and even blindfolding him so that I could taunt him about the thought of someone else being in the room. I found black thigh-high boots that fit like a dream, invested in some black lingerie, and even found a nice snappy whip to surprise him with one evening. I was suddenly the dominatrix who got off on letting other people pleasure my man while I watched, and he was playing the role of the submissive slut who did whatever I wished.

In our day to day lives, we are absolute equals in every way. In the bedroom, however — well, that’s where role playing comes in!

It’s so easy to go from dirty talk to role playing. If you are interested in exploring those wicked fantasies with your partner in a safe way, you can always turn to role playing. Start out with dirty talk, and use it to explore the fantasies without any pressure for either of you. Gradually begin to introduce props into your play, and soon you will both be able to move into a full-fledged role playing sex game.

Did you ever dream dirty talk could lead to so much more?

“Yes,” I said simply. “Sometimes I even talk dirty to him!”

She was utterly appalled that I would participate in such a thing. To be honest, I was floored by that. Why wouldn’t I particpate in something that was so much fun? In the bedroom, anything goes, or so I’ve always thought…so the first time my husband told me to “talk dirty like a whore,” I was more than happy to oblige!

But there are many people out there who see dirty talk as demeaning. If that dirty talk involves calling names — like “whore,” for instance — then it becomes an even bigger taboo.

So imagine my friend’s surprise when I went a bit farther and confessed that my husband and I loved to play with bondage from time to time, and that bringing a bit of dominant and submissive into the bedroom was something we adored. “Until you’ve been tied up and spanked and called a dirty bad girl, you have no idea what you’re missing!” I said. Of course, I said it with a wink. I knew she would blush, and I was right. She stammered something about having to go home and took off like a bat out of hell.

Now, I’m the first to say that if something makes you uncomfortable, you should not do it. Period. That includes dirty talk. But if you are comfortable with it, why not? I don’t know a single woman who would like to be called a whore outside of the bedroom, but once you’re behind closed doors, that’s a whole other story.

That’s why I’ve never considered dirty talk demeaning. How can it be demeaning if it is a choice you have made? If someone calls you a name on the street and it shocks you, hurts your feelings, makes you feel guilty or even worse, then you have just walked into a demeaning situation. But if you are engaging in dirty talk with a loving partner and having a whole lot of fun while doing it, you’re not in a demeaning situation. In fact, it’s just the opposite. You’re in an empowering situation.

So the next time someone asks you how you feel about dirty talk, let them know that there is a place and a time for everything — and you happen to like being a little whore every now and then!

Think about the naughty words you love the most. Now, say them out loud. Say them very calmly, without any inflection at all. See how boring they sound? Now, say them with a little bit of a purr. Make yourself sound almost shy and uncertain. Do they sound better?

Next, drop your voice down to that sultry register he loves so much, and growl those words. Put some feeling behind them. Whoa! The difference is clear and amazing in terms of the passion richter scale. If you feel the words you are saying, your partner is sure to feel them, too.

The tone of your voice can be used in many different ways. One of my favorite ways to trip my man’s trigger is to act like the cool, confident dominatrix. By saying the words in a calm, controlled manner, I can make him believe he’s entirely under my control. By raising my voice just slightly when he doesn’t do what I ask of him, I can change the entire vibe of the conversation. If I add in a nice black blindfold or a set of handcuffs, the words I say hold even more weight — because with the props in place, he knows I mean it, both through my actions and through my words.

But which ones hold more weight? You know already, don’t you? The words always do. You can have a nice sex play without a single sound, but what sways your partner more — the toys you introduce into the bedroom, or the way you sound when you talk about what you’re going to do next?

It’s all in the voice. The next time you want to take control of your man, make it clear — use your words, your tone, and your volume to tell him exactly what you expect. It will be a thrill for both of you!

Sometimes, men have trouble talking dirty . It’s not that they don’t get turned on by it, or that they don’t like to hear it come out of your mouth…but when a man is saying naughty things to a woman in bed, they might be afraid of offending her. Let’s be honest: A lot of the "dirty" words attributed to women can be offensive if they are said outside of the bedroom. For instance, I would not take kindly to being called a "bitch" most of the time. But if my man called me his "naughty little bitch" while we were in the midst of a good romp, I would love it! It’s all in the atmosphere and the attitude.

So help your man out a little…what dirty words turn you on? And which ones turn you off? If your man called you a "whore," how would you feel about it? If you were in the heat of passion, would you take it personally, or would you consider it simply a part of the sex play?

If there is a word you can’t stand, even in the heat of passion, tell your partner it is off-limits. Tell him before the issue comes up, and before things become awkward for both of you! Simply say something like this: "I love it when you talk dirty to me, but please, don’t ever call me a whore. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. Other words, however, are just fine!"

By being up-front and honest with your man, you are not only telling him that you don’t like certain words. You’re also telling him the coast is clear to say anything else he might want to say. By excluding those few words that bother you, your partner will have the confidence of knowing that anything else goes. He will also have the security of knowing that you won’t hesitate to tell him if he’s doing something that makes you uncomfortable. That kind of reassurance will unleash the beast in your man like nothing else!

Open and honest communication. It makes your dirty talk hotter than ever!

So is “500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets” by acclaimed author Michael Webb the right book to bring back the fire? Here’s my take on it.

The book begins with a general foundation and understanding on lovemaking, briefly discussing topics like bedroom toys, adult films, the importance of romance for lovemaking, and interesting truths about Kama Sutra. It also contains a lubrication guide and 16 fully illustrated lovemaking positions in the back of the book. These are all nice touches, but the main attraction and bulk of the book is the 500+ tips.

I have to say, I really LOVE that you can open the book, pick a page and have between 8 ­ 10 easy-to-read tips ready to inspire or use right away. No need to read through dozens of long-winded paragraphs. Everything is formatted neatly and is very easy on the eyes. This is a big plus when you’re just about to make love spur-of-the-moment and you want some ideas.

So, what about the actual tips themselves?

This book is a treasure chest of ideas. It has 539 tips in total. They range from oral sex tips for both men and women, to games you can play to make foreplay more fun (although I would have loved to see more games). It also has tips to make intercourse feel better and unique, ways to surprise your partner like “coming out of the shower with just a towel and playing with your wife,” and even some cool places to make love that most people would never have thought of. While I didn’t find all the tips exciting (which was expected), I found more than enough that appealed to me.

The tips are all mixed together, which can get a little overwhelming. I recommend you skim through the book a few times rather than trying to read the whole thing in one sitting.

This book also lives up to its promise of not containing any raunchy, degrading, immoral or perverted ideas that so many lovemaking books seem to have.

In conclusion, while not all the tips in the book amazed me and I would have been nice to see some more ‘games’, it’s still THE most complete book of tips and ideas on improving lovemaking I’ve ever read. Nothing else comes close. All in all, I found it very enjoyable to read and use So if you want to make your lovemaking exciting again or even if you just want some tips for more pleasure, then I highly recommend this book for you.

For more information about 500 Lovemaking Tips to go: http://www.500LoveMakingTips.com