Online dating is a difficult thing to tackle, you’re faced with the challenge of putting all of your personal details into a pre-designed form, for others to peruse, judge and decide whether they wish to talk to you based on that one page of information. So, what should you do to make sure that your online dating profile gets a lot of hits, and will help you find someone you are compatible with?

The first thing you want to do is choose a photograph of yourself. Some online dating sites allow only one photo while others let you have a few images. Either way the main picture you put on the site should be a head shot.  You want potential dates to be able to see your face first and foremost. If you are allowed to add other photos a fully clothed full body shot that isn’t from 100 feet away is a good choice, as well as a candid image of you laughing or otherwise caught off guard. Your pictures should have been taken within the past 6 months or sooner if you’ve drastically changed your look in the past 6 months.

Your ‘Likes and Dislikes’ list should include the things that are absolute deal breakers for you when it comes to dating. For example: Likes- Honesty, Humor, Health Conscious, Vegetarian. Dislikes- Smoking, Obesity, Eating Meat, Liars. Keeping these areas balanced and even allows you to make the point on certain unwavering areas at a glance.

When the questionnaire asks what you are looking for don’t go on and on about your dream wedding, how many children you want and where you want to live for the next 50 years. Try answering the question as it pertains to the near future. You want someone that you have things in common with to talk to, go out with and get to know better. What happens down the road will be something you can find out together. Your online dating profile is similar to blind date chit chat. Keep it simple, and see whether you want to go from there.

Your online dating profile is truly your first impression on the potential dates that are out there looking for the same thing you are. Taking the time to be honest, to think things through before you enter them, including current photos even if they aren’t as flattering as those from a few years ago are all steps that will ensure that your profile gets attention and you get more quality contacts from the online dating site you choose to use.

Phone sex may sound like a joke to some couples, but for many, it’s the only way for them to get in some hot naughty time together. With Internet dating increasing in popularity, couples are often falling in love and getting together even though they live in entirely different times zones, or even continents. If this is the case for you, or even if you’re just unable to see your lover one night, phone sex is a great way to “get off” without even “getting it on.”

If you and your partner are completely comfortable talking about anything with each other, just straight up mention phone sex to find out their thoughts. If you bring it up and seem interested in it, chances are they will consider it as well since they now know it’s something you’ve considered. If you feel silly mentioning it, wait until you’re on the phone together, make sure you’re both alone, and say something like “I really miss you right now and wish you were here to cuddle and touch me.” It’s enough to get their mind in the same place as yours without actually saying “hey, wanna have some phone sex?”

If you’re both into the idea, a great (but often difficult) way to easily get more into it is to touch yourself. If you’re both getting more and more aroused through masturbation, you’ll feel less inhibited and more likely to say what’s on your mind. Let your partner know what you’re up to and ask if they’re doing the same. Let out a soft moan and tell them how good and wet (or hard) you are.

If you’re both masturbating while on the phone together, there might not even be a whole lot of talking going on. Listening to each other get aroused is sometimes more than enough. If you’re getting close to orgasm, let him know! Tell him you’re going to cum and that you want him to cum with you. Getting off together while on the phone is incredibly hot and probably easier than you think, since the fact that you’re both doing it while on the phone is enough of a turn-on by itself.

Phone sex doesn’t require a whole lot of planning or detail if you’re both aroused, touching yourself and have your mind in the right place. Next time you’re on the phone with your lover, bring it up! Don’t be afraid to stick your hand in your pants, just go for it and trust that they will play along.

Sexual fantasies are a great way to make sex fun. Sex should be fun. You should be able to laugh, play and have a great time while having sex. One of the greatest ways to spice it up in the bedroom is to indulge in a little fantasy role play.

Everyone has a sexual fantasy, whether it is a secret fantasy or something that they think they would never be able to do in real life.  When you share your sexual fantasy with your partner and act it out, you can actually expand on those unfocused details, you can bring your fantasy to life without taking the risk that would be required to act on the fantasy outside the privacy of your relationship.

If you’ve had a fantasy of being a porn star, go for it! Tell your partner all about it, set up the camera, put on some sleazy or cheesy outfits and act out your very own porno. Keep it in a safe place or erase it immediately afterward. Better yet, don’t actually record just pretend. That is the fun of role playing and acting out fantasies.

If the two of you have romantic sex and never touch on that animalistic side that everyone has inside them, let the beasts out to play once in a while. Props, accents, make up and clothing can make each of you feel like a different person. You can easily become someone who is more aggressive and sexual, someone who takes risks and has sex against the wall, or who gets so into the action that they don’t realize they ended up on the floor with carpet burn on their knees.  Now that’s fantasy fun.

No matter what your fantasy is, when you find a partner that you feel free to be yourself with, you can share and act out the fantasies that each of you have. You can make the bedroom door a door to a whole other world where there is just the two of you and your hot, sweaty fantasies.

Long gone are the days where you have to actually call your significant other at work if you want to say hi or tell them you’re sitting alone thinking very naughty thoughts. You don’t have to worry about interrupting a meeting or catching them while they’re on an important call when all you have to do is send a text to let them know what you’re thinking. Whether he’s in a meeting or on a conference call, dirty texting doesn’t interrupt a thing, and you can still let him know exactly what’s on your mind.

Start off simple. “Thinking of u, can’t wait 2 c u and cuddle u baby” is the perfect start. It lets him know he’s on your mind and will get his mind directed toward you as well, even if just for a few moments.

If you want to dive right into the sex scene, go ahead. “I luv having ur hard dick in my mouth” is definitely hot and something he loves to hear, but keeps his mind from wandering as long as you’re sending mildly erotic teases. Something along the lines of “If u were here I’d nibble ur neck and move my hand down ur pants” leaves much more to his imagination.

Small messages like these will slowly get him more and more worked up, likely to the point where he’ll come home ready to pounce you and get adventurous. As he’s about to leave or you know you’ll be together very shortly, finish off your string of dirty texts with something that will send him closer and closer to the edge. “I can’t wait to ride ur dick when u get here” is the perfect dirty text to send him just before he arrives, and he’ll surely be ready for the same thing as soon as he walks through the door.

Does it strike anyone else as being odd that when most people think of making love they think romance, soft lighting and gentle touches? How about when movies and television portray a couple “swept away” with passion? Aren’t those romantic images and seamless position changes wonderful? Of course they are, but in reality making love isn’t usually like that, and anyone who has actually done the dirty deed know that romantic sex, no matter how romantically it begins, doesn’t quite end the same way. Along the way nature takes over.

First off there is the fact that the reality of changing positions usually involves the blankets landing on the floor, or a foot becoming tangled, even losing your balance and toppling on your partner.  Also sadly, reality can involve muscle cramps, an evasive orgasm and even the possibility of being interrupted by the cat, the dog, or the children. You don’t know about the instant loss of arousal caused by a dog staring at you until you experience it.

Sure, in your fantasies everything goes off without a hitch, you are madly passionate, lost in your own sex charged world, and the only thing going through both of your minds is how wonderful it is to make love together. In the real world you often have to fit sex in during the few minutes before you fall asleep each night. There is often no romance involved, instead it is just two people who know how to get the other one to where they are going without wasting any time.

So while you may dream of a smooth, romantic and passionate round of lovemaking, more often than not you will find that you end up with an all too human experience that includes some not so attractive noises, some not so graceful moves and some serious concentration to achieve an orgasm.

So go ahead and embrace the sex life that you have, making love doesn’t have to be romantic or pretty, the reality is that sex between you and your partner can be whatever you want it to be. Whether you are talking dirty throughout or being silent, whether you stick with missionary position or shake things up by switching around, whether you do it in the bed or on the kitchen counter, your sex life is yours, and you have complete freedom to explore whatever you want as long as it is consensual between you and your partner.

If you are in a relationship and want to spice things up a bit there are several small things you can do over the course of a day or even a whole week that will have him lusting for you. Over time relationships can slide into a comfortable but in fact quite boring rut. If you let things continue in that manner you are sentencing yourself to a mundane sex life, and no one should have to live with that.

1.)    Put on some sexy underwear. Even if you are going to a boring job all day and no one will see it, you will not only feel sexier, you’ll act sexier when you have a secret underneath your stuffy work attire. Heck, if you feel really risqué snap a pic with your phone and send it to him with a steamy message. You don’t even have to show anything that you may be embarrassed about later, but a quick nap of your bra strap so he can see some color and lace will rev his engine.

2.)    Greet your man. Those housewives in the 50’s didn’t have it all wrong. When you meet your man at the door in nothing but your sexy undies, pumps and a frilly apron give him a big kiss and promise him an excellent evening then lead him to a hot meal he’ll think he’s died and gone to heaven. For weeks afterward he will have fond thoughts of frilly aprons and you whispering dirty words in his ear.

3.)    Massage away his day. If your man works hard, make sure that once in a while he gets a nice relaxing treat. Lay him down and give him a full body massage. Don’t get so into the sexual part that you neglect his tired and tense muscles. A relaxed man is going to be much more of what you’re looking for after the massage is over. Just the feeling of your hands soothing his aches and lulling him into a state of being barely conscious also leads to him becoming aroused and more than capable of rocking your world.

There is a lot more to having a great sex life than going through the motions. When you and your partner feel that things are becoming routine or even rushed due to work, being tired, being stressed or having children around it is important that you both put forth some effort to bring back the excitement in the bedroom.

Talking dirty on the internet is one of the sweeter joys of jumping into the World Wide Web. Whether you are talking to your long-term lover while he’s on a business trip or discussing sexual thoughts with a perfect stranger, the internet can keep your sex life lively. Here are a few pointers on how to talk dirty on the internet:

Keep it simple. When you’re talking dirty on the internet, keep your words simple and your thoughts clear. Don’t be coy and beat around the bush on what you want to say – just say it! Often internet dirty talk is fast and furious, and that’s why you should never hesitate to say what you want.

Keep it short. Type only enough characters to fill up one line on your instant messenger box, and then hit send. Do this quickly, and you can keep the conversation moving quickly. When you’re engaging in cybersex, it’s easier on the eyes to read one line at a time – and it helps when your attention span has disintegrated into nothing because you’re so turned on!

Get yours first. If you don’t know the person you are fooling around with, be sure to get your pleasure first. Why? Many people will cut and run as soon as they get off. Whether they are afraid of being caught by someone else or they are simply out to get their rocks off and nothing more, those are the people who can leave you hot and bothered with nothing to show for it. Get yourself off first, and then walk the other person through their own pleasure.

Hook up with the same people. If you want to avoid the “cut and run” syndrome, only have cybersex with a select few people. Over time you will get to know their likes and dislikes, what turns them on, and what gets them off. They will be able to do the same for you. Meeting the same people online every time you want to talk dirty on the internet will make you feel much more secure in opening up those deepest, darkest fantasies.

Don’t be shy! Going to a chat room to find a dirty talk partner doesn’t do you any good if you simply sit there and watch everyone else talk. Seek out someone you like. Check out their online profiles. Approach them with an invitation to talk, or if they seem to be in the mood for something a bit more intimate, tell them you’re ready for a bit of dirty talk right now! As with all things dirty, when you know what you want, you have to go for it – and that is oh-so-true when you’re talking dirty on the internet.

So you’re on the verge of scoring a second date with a gorgeous guy when suddenly, he puts on the brakes. You get the “Well, I’ll call you” line, and you know that you will never hear from him again. What made him run? What did you do wrong?

Maybe things just didn’t click this time, but next time, make certain you’ve got all your ducks in a row. Keep these five surefire ways to score a second date in mind long before you go out on your first!

Dress appropriately. Show him you care about where you are going by dressing appropriately. Not sure what to wear? Give him a ring and ask! He will appreciate that you’re going the extra mile. If you can’t get in touch with him or don’t want to call and ask what you should wear, go with something classic, such as a pair of black slacks with a nice blouse or sweater. You can always wear the old stand-by of the little black dress if you aren’t sure how classy the gathering is going to be.

Pay attention! When he talks to you, pay attention to what he’s saying. Don’t just nod your head and smile as you try to figure out what to say next. If you close out everything else and simply focus on the man in front of you, the conversation will be much smoother, and you will learn much more about him.

Take mental notes. While you’re learning about him, make notes of what you hear. Engage him in talk about the subjects he brings up. He’s the oldest of five? How many are brothers and how many are sisters? Where are they now, and what do they do? Is he close to them? Any subject can spawn a boatload of questions. Take note of everything he tells you, and if you forget something, that’s okay…you will remember enough that your follow-up conversations will charm the socks off him!

Be clear, but not too assertive. You’re on a date, so have a good time. If you want to see him again, tell him so. Don’t be coy and leave the date wondering if you will see him again — make it clear what you want. However, don’t be too assertive. Don’t start talking about relationships, the tenth date, or what your kids will look like when you’re just trying out each others company!

Ask him out! If the date left you feeling awestruck and you want more of what he’s got, ask him out. Don’t wait for him to call you! Ask him on a pressure-free second date, such as a lunchtime meal near his workplace, or a leisurely breakfast that gives you the rest of the day if you so desire. Men love women who show them how interested they are, so take a deep breath, shake off that shyness, and ask him out on that second date!

When you’re in a long distance relationship, it’s more important than ever to celebrate those little things that bring you closer together. The distance between you, however, does  not mean you have to settle for substandard or unsatisfying celebrations. Try these ideas when you want to mark a memorable occasion:

• Plan to spend a day together. Whether it’s on the internet or over the phone, plan a whole day when it’s just the two of you. Relax and talk for hours. Do something unique you haven’t done before, like shopping for things together by going to the same chain store that just happens to be hundreds or thousands of miles apart. Make good use of your camera phone and texting ability while you do it.
• Send something that your partner will always remember. Edible arrangements, cards, baskets, that sexy piece of lingerie, or other small items that your partner will love are all good ways to mark that special occasion.
• Make something with your own two hands. Don’t buy something from the store. Make something instead. If you are handy with knitting needles, make him a sweater in his favorite colors, or a great pair of socks to wear when the weather is cold. If you’re great with a hammer and nails, build a birdhouse for her porch or carve a pretty dish for her living room table. Be sure to send it in plenty of time to arrive for that anniversary date!
• Take her out to dinner. Yes, you are far apart – but your dinner date doesn’t have to be. Send her a box filled with a nice tablecloth, candles, and the like. Ask her to set up the table, put her laptop on it, and fire up the webcam. Then have a local eatery deliver dinner for her, complete with dessert. Pay for everything and enjoy the meal together, even though you are far apart.
• Put together a diary of the things you have felt and thought over the period of time before the anniversary. Talk about your first month, your first year, and all of the things that you have worked through and enjoyed as a couple. Years later, you can look back at the diary you kept and both cherish the things that led you to each other.

When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you know how to build intimacy. You know how that relationship works, and you know what turns that person on. You know how to push the buttons that will get you what you want in bed, and your confidence builds. No wonder so many married couples look like the cat that caught the canary!

But if you’re looking at a one-night stand or a new lover, talking dirty is not as easy. You don’t know that person well, and you don’t have the opportunity to try out all kinds of different things. You don’t have the luxury of a great deal of time spent together. You are basically flying blind and hoping that somebody takes the lead.

Talking dirty to your new lover is all about watching his cues and knowing when to back off and when to push forward. Once you have that man in bed, start with some dirty talk by asking him questions. This gives him the chance to take the dirty talk situation and run with it! If he has a lot to say, you will know it immediately, and you can expect an evening of hot and naughty talking to commence!

But if your new lover seems a bit shy or doesn’t want to talk dirty, you’ve got an interesting situation on your hands. You can start out by asking those questions, but if he doesn’t respond in the way you had hoped, it’s time to move on to something else.
You can try the in-your-face tactic: “I love talking dirty, don’t you? I love it hot and nasty!” That makes your intentions clear. But if you’re not the overt kind, consider the more subtle dirty talk: The fantasy that begins with a few words and builds to a crescendo.

When you’re doing something naughty to your new lover, keep up a running commentary about what you’re doing. If you’re going down on him, stop now and then to tell him how good he tastes, or how good this feels, and ask him if he’s watching, and if he enjoys it. The more you talk, the more he’s likely to talk back. In the heat of the moment, you can whisper naughty words into his ear while you bring him to the finish line.

If dirty talk with your lover doesn’t go well the first time, don’t fret. After all, it was the first time! Practice makes perfect, and that’s the same with dirty talk. Over time, you will become more comfortable with pulling your lover out of his shell. In the meantime, practice away!

Talking dirty to your lover on the internet might seem redundant if you actually see each other often, or even live in the same house together. But it’s worth giving it a shot! Even the most committed, strong relationships find themselves in need of a pick-up from time to time, and the internet can give you that option without ever having to leave the privacy of your laptop.
Start out by leaving something interesting in his inbox.

Write a short note telling him exactly what you want to do to him when you see each other again – and describe it in detail. Once you get his response, perhaps ask him if he wants to talk on instant messenger. You can continue to send naughty emails back and forth, but instant messenger gets the heat fired up much faster!

When you talk to your lover on the internet, you can be anyone you want to be. He sees you every day as the person he comes home to or the person he dates – but what if you surprised him with an online persona that is more sensual, more outlandish, or even shocking? He knows it’s you – but it’s a new and fabulous side of you!

Find out what turns your lover and on capitalize on it. Does he love taking you to strip clubs with him? In the internet world, become a stripper who lavishes sensual attention on him. Does he enjoy the thought of having more than one woman? Invite him into your lair where you and your friends enjoy all the things he has to offer. Spin a fantasy that you know he will love, and shock him with your new, uninhibited side.

When you do see him again, carry the fantasy forward. Meet him at the door dressed in those stripper heels, or give him a wink and ask him if he would like to be tied up while more than one woman takes a shot at him. (Hint: There doesn’t actually have to be another woman in your bedroom! You can act out the fantasy with a wide variety of sexual toys.)
Your lover will enjoy talking dirty to you on the internet, especially if that modem is the key to unleashing the parts of you that he had only dreamed about before now!

Do you think dirty talk is something that can only be done in the privacy of your bedroom? Think again! Talking dirty in public is not only possible, it’s hot fun that can light the spark under a relationship. Here are a few tips for talking dirty in public:

Keep it Discreet. Of course, talking dirty in public can be fun…but it can also get you into a lot of trouble if you’re not discreet. The point in hot dirty talk in public is that your partner knows what you are trying to get across, but nobody else does. The secret is the spice!

Keep it Short and Sweet. When you are ready to talk dirty in public, keep your comments short and sweet. This is not the time to go into a long spiel about your latest fantasy. This is when you use short and hot phrases that will make your lover blush!

If you can use the conversation around you or the place you’re in to spark the dirty talk, all the better. If someone makes a comment that is meant to be totally innocent but could sound totally naughty to someone with a mind for that kind of thing, look at your partner with a raised eyebrow and repeat the comment, with special emphasis on the naughtiest bits.

Choose a Place Least Expected. Dirty talk in a strip club is expected…but at the family reunion? How naughty! Dirty talk in public should happen where your lover doesn’t expect anything out of the ordinary. You can talk dirty at the movies, at the softball game, or even while walking through the mall. The fact that it isn’t expected ups the heat factor.

Have a Plan. Be ready with a good excuse – or a shy smile – if someone catches you talking dirty. What you say might be overheard by someone else, despite your best of intentions. If you get caught in the midst of dirty talk, give your accuser that megawatt smile and be prepared to mosey on out the door to avoid further embarrassment.

Use Your Props. Finally, what do you have on hand? Are you at a pool party where you can make suggestive motions while in the water? Are you drinking something with an olive you can suckle? What props around you could be turned into sexual innuendo? Use what you have to highlight your dirty thoughts…and soon your dirty talk will be coming fast and easy, and you won’t be able to wait to get back home!

Okay, so maybe you know how to talk dirty. Maybe you’ve said many a naughty thing in your lifetime. But talking about dirty sex is quite a different matter! Do you know how to talk about the kinkiest, sexiest things the imagination has to offer?

The dirtiest, kinkiest sex can be the hardest to discuss when you’re talking dirty, simply because it’s so hard-core. Working up to really kinky dirty talk can be done, but it usually takes a great deal of time and several lovemaking sessions between partners to build up that kind of momentum. Simply offering up something kinky as hell while in the midst of lovemaking can call a quick halt to the proceedings as your lover tries to wrap their mind around what you just said!

So how do you ease into the kinkiest talk you can imagine?

The key to introducing kink into your dirty talk is to do so by layers. For instance, you might be into the thought of seeing two men together, but you know it’s something that will turn your partner off. How do you get your kink on but keep him interested at the same time? Start with something about how much you like to watch – but don’t specify what you like to see. Perhaps when you’re going down on him, couple that with pushing your index finger into his mouth and demand that he suck it the way you’re sucking him.

That might be enough to give him the picture. As you progress, offer tiny comments that make it clear how much you love watching a man in the midst of pleasure… and if he’s inviting you to even more kink, you’ve just set the stage for what comes next. When you tell him the truth – that you like to watch two men together – he won’t be stunned. After all, you’ve led up to it with subtle hints.

Try the “layering” technique with every dirty sex fantasy you have…the more extreme the fantasy, the more time it might take to lay all the innuendo down, so to speak. If you’re having a kinky one-nighter and you know you might never see that person again, go ahead with your dirty talk bad self… but if you want to maintain the sexual relationship for more than just a night, be a little more delicate in your dirty sex talk. Eventually you will work up to saying anything at all, anytime you want…and your lover will be thrilled with anything you might want to say.

So you like to have a bit of dirty talk on your phone, do you? The only problem with dirty text messages is that sometimes, your phone might fall into the wrong hands. Rather than run the risk of having your privacy compromised when that steamy text comes your way, make a point of keeping your dirty text messages a secret with these naughty little tips:

Keep it on vibrate or silent. When someone is texting hot and heavy, the little beeps that come with it can quickly draw attention, and that’s something you don’t want. Keep the phone on vibrate or silent, and if your keypad beeps when you type, find a way to turn it off. The less attention you draw, the more private your texting will be.

Learn how to delete texts quickly. What if someone walks into the room and demands to see what is on your phone, or simply asks to make a quick call? The text that shows up next could give that person a real eyeful of what you’ve been doing! Figure out the pattern for quickly deleting text messages. For example, my phone lists “options” as a soft key, and then to delete all messages quickly, I choose “6” and “3” from the menu. In three keystrokes, all my text messages are erased. It’s great for those moments when you don’t want someone else to see what you’re typing!

Beware of photographs. If you’re sending text messages to someone you shouldn’t – naughty you! – you can always explain them away somehow. But photographs cannot be explained away – that’s you, and everyone knows it. No matter how hot the texting is, don’t send a photograph via phone if you are worried about it getting around to someone who doesn’t need to know what you’re up to.

Take it to a private place. Want to text but you don’t have a lot of privacy? Remember that you could get going hot and heavy rather quickly, and that’s something that many people have trouble hiding. So before you start breathing heavy or blushing like a schoolgirl who has just learned what a dirty text really is, consider where you could slip away for private time. Besides, having that privacy to let your fingers do the walking – whether it’s texting or something even more personal – is one of the thrills of getting your text on!

Do you believe that how to talk dirty to a woman includes soft, flowery language designed for her feminine senses? Do you think raunchy dirty talk will offend a woman? Do you think that women need to hear romantic thoughts and sweet dreams, rather than the naughty truth of your hottest desires?

How to talk dirty to a woman is not all about flowers and happiness and light. Talking dirty to a woman is all about being raunchy and letting your bad boy out!

But that doesn’t mean you should just jump into the dirty talk pool and whip out your naughtiest comments when you first meet the woman of your dreams. Women do like some romance, and telling her your kinkiest fantasy is something that should be saved for the moment she’s ready to hear it. If she’s out looking for a good time and nothing more, she might welcome your kinky ideas along with a nice adult beverage. If she’s not the “pick up and hook up” type, then you might need to exercise a bit of finesse before you both swing from the chandeliers.

How do you do that? Simple… you start slow. Begin with a compliment or three. Tell her what you like about her appearance, and once you get to know her a bit better, tell her what you like about her personality. Then tell her how much you would like to get to know her better – that’s making it clear that you’re interested. If she responds in a positive light, make your comments increasingly sensual until you know she’s open to how you talk dirty.

Once she’s there, watch her reactions to what you say. If you whisper into her ear how you would love to take her home and tie her up and ravish her body, what does she do? If she leans into you and purrs into your ear, you’ve got permission to go further. If she giggles uncomfortably and pulls away from you, you’ve reached the limit of what she wants to hear at that point in time. You can adjust your “game” accordingly.

The worst mistake you can make is believing that women are delicate flowers who have to be handled as such. Nothing could be further from the truth! Women love sex, and many like especially naughty sex, the kind that fulfills the inner bad girl and makes her beg for more. Learn how to talk dirty to a woman by dropping your inhibitions, and then revel in the naughty things she might have in store for both of you!

You want to talk dirty over the internet – but you don’t quite know what to say. How do you get all those steamy thoughts down into an instant message? How do you make sure that your words are hitting all the right buttons for your internet partner? Without immediate feedback from the person on the other end, and without seeing their reactions to your words, how do you know you’re doing a good job?

There are a few basic things to remember when you’re ready to talk dirty over the internet. Here is a short primer to help you stay on the right track:

Keep it short and sweet. Instant messenger pops up with your message as soon as you hit “send” or “enter.” Keep this in mind…and keep it moving. Short sentences, typed quickly and followed immediately by the enter key, will keep the visual interest going for your partner. If they have to sit for a long time between messages while you take the time to find the perfect words, they will lose interest pretty quickly.

Don’t worry about typos. Don’t bother going back to correct your occasional typo. Your instant message partner will know what you meant, and going back to correct yourself stops the flow of the conversation in its tracks. Just let it go and get to the next sentence.

Paint vivid pictures with your words. You want your internet partner to be turned on by what you’re saying, so give them the full picture. Don’t just describe what you’re doing to them – talk about what they make you feel, too. Describe what you see in the back of your mind. Throw in scents, textures, colors, and all the little descriptions that come to mind. The details make the experience even more exciting.

Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to get the feel of what your internet lover might want. What are they into? What positions do they enjoy? Talking about sex might be hot enough to work for both of you…no fantasy required!

Give them what they want. If you’re talking your partner to an orgasm over the internet, paint the fantasy from start to finish. Don’t just tease…give them what they really want. Ask if they want the whole experience, and if they do, go for it! Include enough detail and enough of your own fantasy to get you going, too. Most people will be courteous and return the favor, but if you wind up with an internet love who wants to cut and run when the deed is done, give yourself some insurance – make sure your words are making you just as hot as they are making your unseen partner!

For the experienced sexual lion and his lioness, incorporating porn in the bedroom can be a deliciously exciting way to work one another up into a fantastically erotic and intense sexual encounter in addition to keeping your sex life thriving, passionate and interesting.  By simply watching a few minutes and then listening to the soft sweet moans of a woman or man highly aroused will add in certain sensations and feelings that you may have never experienced before.

Start the Arousal: Turning on a porno before or while you are engaging in intercourse can do several things for you.  One of the first things it does it get you both excited right away. Simply start by just watching, listening and seeing the movements and positions the actors do.  By sitting together and watching, you and your man will very quickly want to have your hands all over each other.   Within the first minute or so of seeing an incredible threesome, your girl can be dripping wet between her legs and ready for you to give her the ultimate orgasm!

Get Creative, in the DIRTY way:  Watching a porno film can give both of you ideas of what to do to one another. You can see the different positions, locations and handling of certain man/lady parts that you may not have seen or thought to try before. Imitate what each person does in the film to bring it to life.  You can even put your own twist on it as well. For example, you can position yourself to give your man a blow job just like the actors, but use your own tongue and mouth movements the way you know he likes it.  By stimulating your auditory and visual senses you can bring the porn star deep inside you out into fruition. Try going down on your woman in the odd looking position on the kitchen counter, I can almost guarantee she will be feeling a new sensation just by changing up the position!

Turn the fire up a notch: Another benefit of having a porno on is that it can serve as the beginning steps to a much more erotic and excitingly naughty sex life.  By watching other couples have sex on TV can get both of you ready to engage in kinkier escapades later down the road such as orgies or filming yourselves and then watching it later.

Up your Confidence: Lastly, feeling like a porn star can give both of you a bit of added confidence in yourselves and one another.  Knowing you can suck, lick, tease and bang like a porn star may have both of you seeing each other in a different, but extremely positive light.

Keep these few tips in mind when popping in your naughty video and let your sex games begin!

Just because you are in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean the hot and steamy days and nights have to be reduced to only happening when you visit one another.  Make a date for some good sex via webcam to ensure it feels like the distance is only a number.

Before you connect, make sure you have all of your equipment ready so you don’t have to get up and interrupt the online love making. Include details such as being dressed in your lingerie, sexy toys such as vibrators, dildos, cock rings, sex dice, lube, whips, and handcuffs… whatever you need to give yourself the ultimate orgasm. Since you are doing this all online, you both will be providing yourself with an orgasm while the other person watches.

Start the love making by teasing. Take a set of sex dice and roll them.  Whatever the dice lands on is what the other person has to do to themselves.  As you progress to getting wetter and harder, continue to instruct other person on what you want to see them do.  For example, tell your woman you want to see her rub with her nipples as your massage and stroke your cock imagining it’s your fingers that are making her nipples hard.

Continue the foreplay by making noises and tell one another what you want.  Say things like “I love it when I can feel your tongue trace around my pussy” while you take your own fingers or vibrator and do exactly that.   Since you are looking at each other on the web cam, make sure it is positioned so the person can see every part of you.  Move the camera so your man can see all of your juices dripping down your thighs or position yourself so your woman can see how long and hard you are for her.

When you both are ready, turn up the heat; Put that dildo where ever your man wants it… take that cock ring and turn it on.  Look one another deep in the eyes as your massage, rub, moan, groan, sweat and work yourselves to an orgasm together.  Don’t be afraid to get your computer a little messy.

Now that you are all hot and heavy, call your mate to jump online and cyber sex it up!

Tempted to leave hot dirty text messages for your lover? Why not? With these dirty text message examples, you can have them squirming in their seat, biting their lip, and looking over their shoulder before they type something naughty right back to you.

The key with sending the hottest dirty text messages is the buildup. Just sending a quick, hot message isn’t quite enough to do the trick. You need to start out with praise, compliments, and naughty thoughts, and then build to something more from there.

Here are a few dirty text message examples to get things started:

You make me horny every time I see you

I want you so bad

I can’t stop thinking about what I want to do to you

I’m so hard/wet right now

Do you have any idea what you do to me?

I want to rip your clothes off

I wonder what you taste like

Want to feel me inside you?

Your kiss tastes like the sex we had last night

Once you’ve got a few responses and you’ve built up a bit of a conversation, you can start getting more hardcore about your thoughts. Use dirty talk phrases that you know will turn your partner on. Focus on fetishes, desires, fantasies, and more. For example:

Remember my fantasy — wink wink!

I want you to go down on me

I want to suck you from head to toe

Can you touch yourself right now?

Do you want to touch yourself right now?

Guess where my hands are right this second?

Tell me how you want to get laid

Describe your pussy/dick/tits to me

Meet me at home on the bed on your knees

I can make you come right now

And then your imagination will take you to exactly where you need to be…and let the dirty text message game begin!

With the current trend technology seems to be leaning these days, it’s hard to keep your privacy, especially if you sext. People can take snapshots of you doing something naughty on their smartphone and then upload them on many of the social networks available to the public in a matter of minutes. They can also film video and get audio. There is no easy way of getting yourself out of that kind of trouble.

So that’s why, these days, it’s uncomfortable to send a dirty picture sext to your love interests. It’s such a turn-on to receive those erotic entries (it really can bring some passion into a relationship- especially long distance relationships) but you never know and can’t be promised, if the relationship goes sour, that the person won’t put you on youtube or Facebook and exploit your erotic displays. So to be careful, here a few precautions one should consider before showing off your glorious naked body to others.

Hide Your Face – He really wants to see your tits. He’s losing his mind over it. So you run to the bathroom, pull down your top and snap a shot. Don’t send that yet! Make sure your face isn’t in it. Not even your hair. A quick sext of your curves sans face should be more than enough, even if he wants to show it to his friends. They will always be wondering if it’s you or not.

No Drunk Sext Messages– It may seem like a good idea at the time to strip naked after you get home from the bar – standing in front of the mirror baring all- to take a picture and send it off. But along with your throbbing headache, you just might hate yourself in the morning. Try it sober.

Delete Your Sent Box – There’s no telling it’s you if they can’t find it on you. And say you sell a friend an old phone that holds these blackmail photos, things could get ugly. If you’re going to send provocative images to someone, immediately delete the product. Clear out all those sext messages in your outbox.

Also, when in doubt, deny, deny, deny. If anything, it’ll conjure up mystery behind your sexual conquests.