Today, men and women alike are both looking for ways to spice up their sex lives, and spice up their love life. Phone sex is one of the easiest ways to do this, and by implementing a little phone sex into your sex life, you can give both your sex life and your relationship a little boost that will go a long way.
But how do you go about it if you’ve never done it before?
One reason many women don’t try phone sex or dirty talk is because they are reserved and fear of failure stops them in their tracks before they can
even begin. The thought of ‘messing it up’ is so mortifying, that it prevents us from opening up a very sexy door in our relationship. We feel we will look silly, say the wrong thing, or screw it up so badly that we will send our lover running out the door.
Fortunately for us, the male mind is very easy to work with when it comes to phone sex and dirty talk. For men, the very idea of something suggestive is enough to get their motors running, and this is a concept that you can use to your advantage when initiating phone sex or dirty talk. Your job is only to plant the seed, get the idea in his head, and take it from there. Start by giving him an idea to work with, and he will ensure that the finish is wonderful for both of you.
When I am feeling a little shy, I like to use the dream scenario. Using dreams, or at least the idea of dreams, can be very arousing for men. When you tell a man that you have had a dream about him, he gets very excited at the thought that he has now entered your subconscious. When you tell a man that you’ve had a dirty dream about him, he won’t let it stop there, he WILL want to learn more.
Start off by telling your man you had a dream about him. Gage his response, it will likely be followed by ‘Oh REALLY?’ At this point you can tease him with it for as long as you like, send him text messages through the day giving him bits and pieces of this sexy story until the two of you are able to settle in for a nice long chat about it.
The dream scenario is almost foolproof when it comes to breaking the ice for phone sex or dirty talk for even the shyest girl. Even if you haven’t had a dream about your man, all you need to do is use one of the fantasies you’ve had about him, and turn that into a ‘dream story’.
You may be surprised with how easy phone sex and dirty talk really is. With this little push, you will be a pro at dirty talk in no time.
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