So you’re on the verge of scoring a second date with a gorgeous guy when suddenly, he puts on the brakes. You get the “Well, I’ll call you” line, and you know that you will never hear from him again. What made him run? What did you do wrong?
Maybe things just didn’t click this time, but next time, make certain you’ve got all your ducks in a row. Keep these five surefire ways to score a second date in mind long before you go out on your first!
Dress appropriately. Show him you care about where you are going by dressing appropriately. Not sure what to wear? Give him a ring and ask! He will appreciate that you’re going the extra mile. If you can’t get in touch with him or don’t want to call and ask what you should wear, go with something classic, such as a pair of black slacks with a nice blouse or sweater. You can always wear the old stand-by of the little black dress if you aren’t sure how classy the gathering is going to be.
Pay attention! When he talks to you, pay attention to what he’s saying. Don’t just nod your head and smile as you try to figure out what to say next. If you close out everything else and simply focus on the man in front of you, the conversation will be much smoother, and you will learn much more about him.
Take mental notes. While you’re learning about him, make notes of what you hear. Engage him in talk about the subjects he brings up. He’s the oldest of five? How many are brothers and how many are sisters? Where are they now, and what do they do? Is he close to them? Any subject can spawn a boatload of questions. Take note of everything he tells you, and if you forget something, that’s okay…you will remember enough that your follow-up conversations will charm the socks off him!
Be clear, but not too assertive. You’re on a date, so have a good time. If you want to see him again, tell him so. Don’t be coy and leave the date wondering if you will see him again — make it clear what you want. However, don’t be too assertive. Don’t start talking about relationships, the tenth date, or what your kids will look like when you’re just trying out each others company!
Ask him out! If the date left you feeling awestruck and you want more of what he’s got, ask him out. Don’t wait for him to call you! Ask him on a pressure-free second date, such as a lunchtime meal near his workplace, or a leisurely breakfast that gives you the rest of the day if you so desire. Men love women who show them how interested they are, so take a deep breath, shake off that shyness, and ask him out on that second date!
