Dirty Talk Blog - How To Talk Dirty

When you talk dirty to your lover, you’re painting pictures with words. You are detailing a fantasy, or telling him about a certain position, or calling to mind a not-so-innocent body part, and when he hears the words, he sees the image in his head. Dirty talk is proof that the biggest sexual organ we have is our brain!

But once you’ve tapped into those fantasies in your lover’s head, what if you decide to take it a step farther? Most people who reveal their fantasies during dirty talk aren’t really looking to fulfill them in a real-life scenario, but they are admitting that the idea turns them on. Since relationships are about compromise, why not take those fantasies and fulfill them as best you can, without going overboard and making both of you uncomfortable — or worse, wrecking your relationship?

Sex toys are the answer.

The thought of bringing sex toys into the bedroom might make you blush, but consider this: You might have been uncomfortable with the thought of dirty talk in the beginning, too, but you were willing to look into the idea. That’s why you’re reading this blog, right? If you could overcome your fear of embarrassment when it comes to talking dirty, you can get over your concerns about introducing sex toys into the mix, too.

The acceptance of sex toys in bed is something that will take patience and understanding. It’s important that your partner knows you are content with them and what they can give you when you make love. You’re not bringing in a toy to make up for something they aren’t doing! If you introduce your sex toys as a form of enhancing for furthering the dirty talk fantasies, they become less threatening to the ego.

Has your partner talked about seeing you with another man? You might not be willing to step outside your relationship and make it happen, but why not make it a reality with sex toys? Buy the most realistic-looking dildo you can find. When you bring it home, remind your lover of the fantasy, and ask if he would like to act it out — just the two of you. He might be surprised by the dildo at first, but if he’s really into the fantasy and wants to try it out, he will come around as soon as he realizes you are serious about making his dreams a reality — or as close to a reality as you can, anyway.

Do you want to see him with another woman? Try one of the sex toys for men. They are usually called "pocket pussies" or the like, and they are meant to mimick the feel and motion of a woman’s body. A great trick involves blindfolding your partner, tying his hands to the headboard, and whispering into his ear about what a naughty boy he is…"You’re going to let her do it, aren’t you? And you’re going to enjoy it. And I’m going to watch!" Words like that will throw his libido into overdrive, and when you do use that toy on him, don’t be surprised if fireworks ensue.

Do you have a special fantasy in mind? Then what are you waiting for? Check out your favorite adult toy shop and find something that fits the fantasy spinning in your head. Then try it out on your lover, and come back here to tell us how it went!

Have you ever played Dirty Truth or Dare? It’s the more adult version of truth or dare, and it’s bound to open up new sexual horizons for you and your naughty partner.

The rules of the game are simple. The first person chooses truth or dare, and the second person gives them whichever they chose. The twist? It has to be as naughty as the day is long!

Any "truth" question must be about sex. No exceptions. You don’t have to ask about past lovers — unless, of course you want to — but you do have to ask questions that will lead your lover to give you more than a "yes" or "no" answer. Some examples include:

What is your favorite part of going down on me?
What is your favorite body part?
Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex?
What is the biggest myth you’ve ever heard about sex?
What is your oddest fantasy?
Your juiciest fantasy?
The fantasy you would never be brave enough to fulfill?
Have you ever …? (Ask whatever turns you on!)

This game can go on forever! But of course, there’s also the "dare" side, and once you throw that into the mix, the game heats up even faster. This is your opportunity to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do! Offer dirty dares that turn them on, things you know they would like to do — or even things that are just a little bit out of their comfort zone. The fun of the dare is seeing if your lover will actually do it!

In a game of truth or dare, nobody really wins. But in a game of dirty truth or dare, both of you win the opportunity for some fantastic sex!

So you and your partner are talking dirty in the bedroom , and it’s become something you both expect. You can pull out your bag of tricks and make it different each time, but why not go a little out of the normal realm of naughtiness, and use some modern technology to turn your sexy on?

Go back to the original dirty talk , baby — have some phone sex!

It might seem silly to have phone sex with someone you are sleeping with all the time, or even someone who lives with you. Why bother calling him up at the office and getting off with a mutual masturbation session, if he’s going to be coming home in a few hours anyway? What is the point in that?

The point is exactly that — it’s unexpected. The thought of having phone sex seems frivilous or couterproductive. You are into a routine, and it’s a good one! Your sex is hotter than ever. Why bother with spicing things up if the dirty talk has done the trick already?

The element of surprise is always sexy, no matter how long you’ve been together, and no matter how well your sex life works. Surprising your partner with a naughty phone call in the middle of the day will make his eyebrows rise — along with something a bit farther south. Give him what he’s not expecting!

Make sure you call during a time when you know he can be alone. Does the door to his office lock? Is he away on a business trip? Choose a time when you know you can use those sultry words to your advantage.

Get revved up before you call. Grab your favorite vibrator or your naughtiest erotic novel, and spend some time with yourself before you dial that number. Get yourself all hot and bothered, but don’t go all the way to satisfaction — save that for your lover, and let him hear you climax over the phone line.

Push all his hot buttons. Phone sex is all about the images you paint in your lover’s head, so make sure you go after all those things that turn him on the most. Describe his favorite fantasy, help him picture his favorite position, and remind him of all the little things you do that drive him absolutely wild. When you’re talking on the phone, you don’t have the advantage of visuals, so use words that make it clear. Don’t be afraid to get raunchy! The crude words you might not use face-to-face are perfect when you’re having phone sex. The hotter you can get, the better!

When it’s over, don’t play coy about it. The next time you see your lover, throw your arms around him and whisper in his ear, "I loved hearing you come today." Then take the passion of that phone call and carry it into the bedroom, where you can do all those things you described — only now, you’re doing them in person!

The next time things seem to slow down or get a little stale, try a healthy dose of phone sex. You never know where it might lead.

Don’t you hate it when someone catches you talking to yourself? I especially hate it when they give me that "look." You know, the one that says I must have some loose marbles up there. Why do people always think you’re crazy when they catch you discussing something with yourself?

Talking dirty to yourself, now, that’s another story. If you get caught talking to yourself while you’re masturbating, well…then you’re just naughty, aren’t you?

All this time, you’ve been thinking about using dirty talk to turn your partner on. But what about doing something a bit dirty for yourself? The next time you’re in bed with your favorite vibrator or your familiar hand, spice things up a bit with naughty words!

When you’re talking dirty to yourself, you don’t have to worry about what your partner might think. If the nastiest words are the ones that get you off, more power to you! If you have some secret fantasies you’re not quite ready to share yet, you can talk yourself through them when you’re alone…and you can enjoy the images in your head while you do it.

In fact, dirty talk while you are alone can enhance your sex life. How? You can explore scenarios that you might not be ready to share with your partner, and you can become more comfortable with the idea of talking about them. You can try out new words that you are sure would make you blush, and you just might find out what you like them — that you like them quite a lot , in fact! The ideas you come up with while it’s just you and your imagination are endless!

So the next time you’re feeling sexy but your partner isn’t handy, take care of the matter yourself. And while you do it, think about the things that turn you on the most. You can even use it as a tease later on! When your partner shows up, you can give him that sultry smile, that naughty wink, and purr: "Guess what I did today, honey?"

Have at it! Who says dirty talk is just for couples?