Dirty Talk Blog - How To Talk Dirty

You bet! Dirty talk can be found almost anywhere, if only you know where to look. Some of those places might be well-hidden…for instance, take a look at your music collection. What are the songs that get your blood flowing? What songs turn you on? What tunes put you in the mood for sex?

Read the lyrics to those songs. Have they used dirty talk in such a lyrical way that it doesn’t really seem like dirty talk at all?

You can take some tips from those lyrics. Pick out the parts that make you hot and use them on your partner the next time you’re in bed. If he wonders where you got that idea from, well…put on the music and let the rhythm, as well as the words, take you away!

Easing into anything new is the best way to make sure you’re going to enjoy it. Dirty talk is no different! You can ease into dirty talk by asking yourself some specific questions and then answering them in the heat of the moment.

How do you do that, you ask? It’s simple. Let me show you how.

When you’re in bed with your partner, ask yourself what you like about him. What about his body turns you on? Which part of his body do you find yourself touching the most, and why? Is it those broad shoulders? Is it that strong, solid chest? How about those muscles in his arms, the ones that make you weak with desire?

Decide what it is that turns you on about his body, and then tell him. Simply saying, "I love the way your arms feel when you’re above me" will make him swell with pride. Tell him how much you love his broad, strong chest as you drop little kisses all over it. If you love to run your fingers through his hair, do it — and tell him how much you like it.

Of course, more personal body parts are up for discussion, too! If you love the way he feels inside you, or the wonderful things he can do with his fingers and his tongue, tell him that. You can tell him with everyday words or with dirty, forbidden talk. Either way, he’s going to get an ego stroking, and you’re going to get the words flowing. It is a good situation for everybody!

Once you’ve talked about his body, talk about the things he does with it. What particular thing does he do in bed that makes you hotter than a firecracker? Is there one little move that sends you to the moon and back? Point it out to him, and praise him for it. Use descriptive words to show him exactly how it makes you feel. If you feel like getting more graphic, go ahead!

You can also ask him to talk to you about the things that drive him crazy. What’s his favorite part of your body? Ask him outright and see what he says. What does he love to feel you do in bed? Ask him, and when he gives you an answer, reward him by doing that very thing.

You can repeat his own words back to him as you do it, making them more graphic as you go along. If he says, "I love it when you kiss me like that," you can respond by making it much clearer: "So, you like it when I kiss you while I’m touching you there?" Easing into the questions and answers will make you both more open to what the other is saying, and you will soon be uttering things that would make you blush in any other situation.

But you won’t blush as you say them in bed — because easing into dirty talk is the surefire way to keep the naughty meter at redline in the bedroom.

Who says dirty talk has to be dirty? If naughty words make you blush, start out with sounds. A long, deep moan of desire or a whispered "yes" can be just as sexy as the most down-and-dirty word.

Breath into his ear. Whimper your approval when he does something you like. Let out that slow sigh when he makes your body shiver. Growl his name between clenched teeth while you hold onto his shoulders. Whisper his name in between kisses. Scream when he takes you to the highest plateau, and laugh as you are coming down from it.

The sounds you make are just as sexy as the words you use. Try it and see!

When you’re thinking about dirty talk in bed , you might become tongue-tied. What to say? The dirty words might sound good when you read them in an erotic novel or hear them coming from you television screen. But when it comes time to let loose with those words in bed, you blush and fumble, and maybe even forget what to say.

It’s a common problem to have, and luckily for you, there’s an easy to way to overcome it!

If you aren’t sure what to say in bed, start by practicing long before you get there. Write down all the dirty words you can think of, then put them in various combinations. Make the list as long as you can.

Once you’ve done that, stand in front of the mirror, list in hand – and read it aloud, watching yourself as you say the words.

Will it make you giggle? Blush? Laugh out loud? Of course it will!

The point is to get comfortable with saying the words. Just say them. The more you say them, the more comfortable you will get. The less you will blush. The sultrier your voice will become.

Play with it! Put the words together in sentences. Purse your lips at the mirror while you purr your latest dirty word phrases. Remember, it doesn’t have to be the words themselves that are dirty! Your attitude while you say them can make even the most virginal phrases sound sexy.

When you do decide to say words like that in bed, choose just one. Make a point of focusing on that word as you are practicing with the mirror. Get comfortable with saying it. Put it in as many combinations of sentences as you can.

When you are in bed with your partner, whisper one of those naughty sentences into his ear. It can be a very simple sentence. You don’t have to start out with the really dirty words – you can begin with dirty talk phrases that bring to mind other things.

Something like “I love it when we do this” can lead to the teasing question of “Do what?”

Which then leads to…

You get the idea!

Practice, practice, practice! Learning to talk dirty in bed takes time. For more tips to inspire you, check out “The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty.”

And then tease, tease, tease. Soon, you will utter something you thought you would never say, and your partner will notice.

Then you can practice on him! What better way to learn what works than to watch your partner’s eyes every time you say something that revs the passion a little higher?