101 Days To A Great Sex Life
Want to spice up your sex life? Here’s a plan for 101 days of change that will eventually lead to the best sex life you’ve ever had! Print out the list, start at the top, and check off the days as you do them. If you need to take a day off here and there, that’s okay. The point is to make sure you get through the entire list within a time period of very close to 101 days.
1. Evaluate your sex life – do you like it?
2. Make a list of what you can do to change it.
3. Consider your background and your partner’s background – how do they mesh?
4. Ask your partner to write down his wishes for your sex life.
5. What are your most impressive fantasies? Write them down.
6. Talk to your partner about them.
7. Start a gratitude journal. Write in it every day and explain what you love about your partner at that moment in time. Keep this up throughout the process…it comes in handy later!
8. What are your lover’s favorite positions? Ask!
9. Read the Kama Sutra for tips.
10. Open up the “Dirty Talk” website and leave it up on the screen so your lover can see it.
11. Join the Dirty Talk forum to get new ideas.
12. Put away those old sweats and wear dresses around the house.
13. Go shopping for a new sex book together.
14. Get a makeover with a sexy new hairdo.
15. Send a card to his workplace – to his attention, of course.
16. Invest in new sheets for your bed.
17. Bring a dish of ice cream to bed with you and share it with him. No spoons allowed!
18. Send him a flirty text message…or two…or three!
19. Feeling even more adventurous? Visit the sex toy shop online.
20. Send flowers from a “secret admirer.” Put the card in your own handwriting but don’t sign it!
21. Buy a pretty new nightgown to wear to bed.
22. When he tries to put clothes on while you’re home alone, tell him you want to see him naked.
23. Undress him when he comes home from work.
24. Meet him at the door with his favorite drink in hand and enjoy a few moments together.
25. Build up to great sex with one week of no intimate contact.
26. Invite your lover to touch you – but only with your clothes on.
27. Kiss your partner for five whole minutes.
28. Give him a massage without asking for anything in return.
29. Go see a romantic movie together and hold hands.
30. Talk about the day you met and how far you’ve come since then.
31. Read a sensual story to each other in bed.
32. Plan a getaway weekend and purchase special naughty lingerie for the occasion.
33. Hop in the shower together and wash each other.
34. Commit to having sex for at least one long, luscious hour.
35. Plan on a weekend trip to the place you first met.
36. Leave the itinerary on his desk with a lipstick kiss.
37. Spray your perfume on the floorboards of his car – he will smell it when he gets in.
38. Tuck a sexy note into his briefcase or pocket when he’s not looking.
39. Introduce him to breathing exercises. While you are lying in bed together, try to match your breaths to his. It becomes an intensely intimate experience.
40. Breathe the same air – cuddle up right beside him and take a breath when he exhales. Breathe from each other.
41. Compliment something about your lover that you have never complimented before.
42. Before you come to bed, casually run your fingertips all over your body – and make sure he can see you do it.
43. Write a sexy story about him, and then read it aloud in bed.
44. Call him for a lunch meeting at your favorite downtown hotel.
45. Give him a quickie when he gets home from work.
46. Let him find you soaking in the tub – with your waterproof vibrator in hand.
47. Surprise your lover with a naughty movie for the two of you to enjoy.
48. Tell your partner what you love the most about them.
49. Massage his shoulders as he sits and watches television.
50. Talk about what you both want out of life. What are your long term goals?
51. Watch the sunset or the sunrise together – your choice!
52. Pick up a treat for him at the grocery store.
53. Send a naughty picture of you through his private email.
54. Sit down and write “what I love about you” lists. Then exchange them and read aloud!
55. Give him hints about your perfect date night.
56. Eat at a fondue restaurant and feed each other every bite.
57. Make a list of why you fell in love with your partner in the first place, and then read it to them.
58. Invest in a lovely silk scarf…and use it as a blindfold.
59. Take a day for you. Get a manicure, visit the spa, whatever it takes to make you feel sexy!
60. Dance with your lover to a slow song on the radio.
61. Jump in the shower with him when he least expects it.
62. Purchase a nice lotion and take turns putting it on each other.
63. Ask for a list of the most creative sexual ideas your lover can think of – and then plan to act on them.
64. Talk about the “story of your life” – all the way to the happy ending.
65. Dedicate a song to your lover on their favorite radio station.
66. Write “I love you” in lipstick on the mirror before your partner wakes up.
67. Talk about what makes you happy. Not in bed – just in a general sense. Ask your lover what makes them happy, too.
68. Write a letter to someone important in his life – his mother, his high school coach, his father, his mentor – and tell them how happy you are that they raised such a wonderful person.
69. Call your love and leave a steamy voice mail they can listen to over and over.
70. Surprise your lover at the office wearing a trench coat and nothing else. Does it sound like a bad porn movie? Maybe…but it works.
71. Invest in a book on how to improve your relationship and start reading it tonight.
72. Go out to a nice, romantic candlelit dinner. Agree not to discuss anything but each other.
73. Study up on feng shui and decide how to rearrange your living space to invite more sensuality in.
74. Go taste the wines at your local winery – or choose a few bottles and taste them yourselves at home.
75. Turn on loud music and dance your heart out. Invite your lover to join in!
76. Wear high heels around the house today.
77. Ask your lover for details about his childhood. Favorite pet? Favorite game? Whatever comes to mind is good.
78. Make a list of all the things you love about yourself. Not your lover – about YOU. Tuck away the list in a drawer so you can look at it often.
79. Find a new sexual trick on the internet and break it out on your lover tonight.
80. Ask him to tell you a dirty story while you are in bed together.
81. Whatever you do today, hold hands and kiss often.
82. Spend a day away from your partner. Take the time to reflect on your relationship and how things are going.
83. Wake your lover up with kisses. No sex, just sweet kisses that make them smile.
84. Take some time today to learn about something your partner is interested in. For example, does he like football? Do you understand any of it? Today is the day to learn! Tell him what you learned when the evening rolls around.
85. Go to a museum or look at fine art online. What touches your lover?
86. Get inspired to create art of your own – invest in a few paints, some brushes, and a canvas. Draw something together and talk about what you are doing.
87. Now break out the body paints! Chocolate syrup, raspberry creams, even the old stand-by – whipped cream! – will look good on the canvas of your skin. Play until things get too hot!
88. Talk about trust and what it means to each of you.
89. Take a long walk together and talk about the one big regret in your life. Especially if you haven’t shared it with anyone before. Tell your partner you trust them enough to say it out loud.
90. Break out of serious mode with some fun – what’s the craziest position you can think of? Try it out tonight! Whoever is most creative wins a prize of their choice.
91. Break out the camera and take pictures of the two of you. Sweet pictures? Sexy pictures? That’s up to you!
92. Remember the gratitude journal you started in the beginning? Show your journal to your lover.
93. Talk about barriers to intimacy. What makes you feel distant from your partner? How can you work on it together?
94. Choose a “secret word” that each of you will recognize as being a sign that you’re turned on…but a sign that nobody else will ever recognize.
95. Have a quiet evening at home with no distractions. Make a romantic dinner and spend time on the couch watching a movie.
96. Ask your partner what feeds their soul. What drives them? What inspires them?
97. Sit down and plan your next vacation together.
98. Have a picnic in your own backyard.
99. When you see your lover today, go directly to him and give him the longest, biggest hug you can muster.
100. Watch your partner sleep.
101. Remember that it takes two, and it’s never too late – so share this list with your lover and start all over again with the very first one!
