Dirty Talk Blog - How To Talk Dirty

Have you ever played Dirty Truth or Dare? It’s the more adult version of truth or dare, and it’s bound to open up new sexual horizons for you and your naughty partner.

The rules of the game are simple. The first person chooses truth or dare, and the second person gives them whichever they chose. The twist? It has to be as naughty as the day is long!

Any "truth" question must be about sex. No exceptions. You don’t have to ask about past lovers — unless, of course you want to — but you do have to ask questions that will lead your lover to give you more than a "yes" or "no" answer. Some examples include:

What is your favorite part of going down on me?
What is your favorite body part?
Where is the craziest place you have ever had sex?
What is the biggest myth you’ve ever heard about sex?
What is your oddest fantasy?
Your juiciest fantasy?
The fantasy you would never be brave enough to fulfill?
Have you ever …? (Ask whatever turns you on!)

This game can go on forever! But of course, there’s also the "dare" side, and once you throw that into the mix, the game heats up even faster. This is your opportunity to tell your partner exactly what you want them to do! Offer dirty dares that turn them on, things you know they would like to do — or even things that are just a little bit out of their comfort zone. The fun of the dare is seeing if your lover will actually do it!

In a game of truth or dare, nobody really wins. But in a game of dirty truth or dare, both of you win the opportunity for some fantastic sex!

So you and your partner are talking dirty in the bedroom , and it’s become something you both expect. You can pull out your bag of tricks and make it different each time, but why not go a little out of the normal realm of naughtiness, and use some modern technology to turn your sexy on?

Go back to the original dirty talk , baby — have some phone sex!

It might seem silly to have phone sex with someone you are sleeping with all the time, or even someone who lives with you. Why bother calling him up at the office and getting off with a mutual masturbation session, if he’s going to be coming home in a few hours anyway? What is the point in that?

The point is exactly that — it’s unexpected. The thought of having phone sex seems frivilous or couterproductive. You are into a routine, and it’s a good one! Your sex is hotter than ever. Why bother with spicing things up if the dirty talk has done the trick already?

The element of surprise is always sexy, no matter how long you’ve been together, and no matter how well your sex life works. Surprising your partner with a naughty phone call in the middle of the day will make his eyebrows rise — along with something a bit farther south. Give him what he’s not expecting!

Make sure you call during a time when you know he can be alone. Does the door to his office lock? Is he away on a business trip? Choose a time when you know you can use those sultry words to your advantage.

Get revved up before you call. Grab your favorite vibrator or your naughtiest erotic novel, and spend some time with yourself before you dial that number. Get yourself all hot and bothered, but don’t go all the way to satisfaction — save that for your lover, and let him hear you climax over the phone line.

Push all his hot buttons. Phone sex is all about the images you paint in your lover’s head, so make sure you go after all those things that turn him on the most. Describe his favorite fantasy, help him picture his favorite position, and remind him of all the little things you do that drive him absolutely wild. When you’re talking on the phone, you don’t have the advantage of visuals, so use words that make it clear. Don’t be afraid to get raunchy! The crude words you might not use face-to-face are perfect when you’re having phone sex. The hotter you can get, the better!

When it’s over, don’t play coy about it. The next time you see your lover, throw your arms around him and whisper in his ear, "I loved hearing you come today." Then take the passion of that phone call and carry it into the bedroom, where you can do all those things you described — only now, you’re doing them in person!

The next time things seem to slow down or get a little stale, try a healthy dose of phone sex. You never know where it might lead.

Don’t you hate it when someone catches you talking to yourself? I especially hate it when they give me that "look." You know, the one that says I must have some loose marbles up there. Why do people always think you’re crazy when they catch you discussing something with yourself?

Talking dirty to yourself, now, that’s another story. If you get caught talking to yourself while you’re masturbating, well…then you’re just naughty, aren’t you?

All this time, you’ve been thinking about using dirty talk to turn your partner on. But what about doing something a bit dirty for yourself? The next time you’re in bed with your favorite vibrator or your familiar hand, spice things up a bit with naughty words!

When you’re talking dirty to yourself, you don’t have to worry about what your partner might think. If the nastiest words are the ones that get you off, more power to you! If you have some secret fantasies you’re not quite ready to share yet, you can talk yourself through them when you’re alone…and you can enjoy the images in your head while you do it.

In fact, talking dirty while you are alone can enhance your sex life. How? You can explore scenarios that you might not be ready to share with your partner, and you can become more comfortable with the idea of talking about them. You can try out new words that you are sure would make you blush, and you just might find out what you like them — that you like them quite a lot , in fact! The ideas you come up with while it’s just you and your imagination are endless!

So the next time you’re feeling sexy but your partner isn’t handy, take care of the matter yourself. And while you do it, think about the things that turn you on the most. You can even use it as a tease later on! When your partner shows up, you can give him that sultry smile, that naughty wink, and purr: "Guess what I did today, honey?"

Have at it! Who says dirty talk is just for couples?

That’s right! When you want to talk dirty but you don’t quite know how, why not start out with something a little less likely to make you blush? Begin by picking up a book of dirty stories, or finding a few on the internet to read. Which ones make you tingle? Which ones would turn your lover on?

Read stories to get yourself in the mood, and then write one of your own. Make it a fantasy if you want, or write about something you and your lover did a few nights ago…you know, that thing that left you breathless and weak with pleasure? Write about it! Use as many descriptive words as you want. Talk about how it made you feel — both the physical reaction and the emotional one. Describe how you want to do it again, and what it would be like.

You can add all sorts of elements to your erotic story. Has your lover expressed a particular fantasy? Make it come true with your pen and paper! Is there something you’ve always wanted to try, or even some fantastic body-bending scenario that is physically impossible, but turns you on anyway? You might be surprised at how many people have fantasies that make little logical sense…but those fantasies make them hot regardless. Write it all down!

But that’s half of the battle. Once you have the story written the way you want, with all the little twists and turns you desire, it’s time to present it to your lover. How do you do that?

You read it to him!

Take the story to bed with you. Light some candles and relax with a glass of wine. In your best sultry, seductive voice, read your dirty story aloud. Put emphasis on the really naughty bits. Draw out the most tingle-worthy words. Make your partner feel what you’re saying…and while you’re reading, it’s a sure bet you will get just as turned on as he is!

So, what do you think…can you make it to the end of that story before one of you gives up and jumps the other? Why don’t you go find out?

Still looking for a way to ease into talking dirty ?

Make it a game! Though there are dirty talk games out there on the market, none are as effective as the one you create yourself.

To begin: You and your partner each sit down with a piece of paper and write down as many dirty words as you can think of. Use hardcore words that make you blush as you write them, use sweet and sexy words, even throw in words that aren’t necessarily dirty at all, but describe actions you want to see happen — "harder" or "faster" are two classics.

Cut the papers into strips, with one word on each strip. Fold them each in half and drop them in a bowl, a cup, or a hat. Flip a coin to see who goes first. Draw a slip of paper out of the hat and read it aloud, then come up with a naughty sentence to go along with it.

It might be silly at first, but keep going — eventually you will start to think more about the words and the sentences themselves than the giggles the next word might bring, and soon after that , you will start thinking about putting some of those creative sentences into action. A good look into your lover’s eyes will show you that he’s thinking along the same lines.

At that point, well…how do you determine the winner? It would be easy to say the naughtiest wins, but let’s make it a bit more challenging. How about this: The first person to put dirty talk into hot, steamy action — and to bring their partner to orgasm while whispering raunchy nothings into their ear — is the proven winner!

This time, that is. You can always put those slips of paper back into the hat and go for round two.